okay so I come from a very religious family and I feel like if I don't come out I'll explode. I know my Mom won't abuse me or anything but I am a bit nervous about her reaction. I mean how do you explain to a 65 year old that you don't feel female or at least fully so?(I'm still confused at that.)

I'm 20 and this isn't going to get any easier with age, I learned that at seventeen.

any suggestions?

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Quote from: spacesword on February 01, 2016, 05:06:25 PM
I mean how do you explain to a 65 year old that you don't feel female or at least fully so?

"Mom, you probably know that there are people called "transgender" who were born needing to be a different gender than their body sex. I'm one of those people. We can't help it. It doesn't go away on its own and no one has found a way to change us. It is a serious condition. Severe anxiety and depression result from people who ignore it.

I need to figure out how I'm going to live with this condition, since it is very real. I don't mean to hurt you, but there's no way things can stay the way they are."

Do you thing something like that might work?