I think we all agree that this guy is a jerk and a loser.

But that does not mean one has to drop him immediately.  Girls can learn a lot of things from jerky men; every lesson does not have to be with your heart's desire.

So, once you can get over the emotion of attraction, and consider yourself in charge of what happens, keep him around as your boy toy.  And in the end, let him feel the pain he caused you.  How would he feel about you laughing at his sexuality and ability in bed in front of his friends?

Never get mad, just get even.

Today I told him that a guy I use to hook up wit sexual organ was bigger than his n he got really upset like really so I got pay back. I talked to him bout Wat was bothering me n he said he didn't mean it that way that he likes my body the way it is but it dosnt hurt if it improves.

He's bargaining to keep you, but I promise that he's going to get worse, not better.  Keep hitting him below the belt until he's out of your life.

your young and beautiful and just staring to fill out, don't sell yourself short.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 10, 2016, 11:45:28 PM
Today I told him that a guy I use to hook up wit sexual organ was bigger than his n he got really upset like really so I got pay back. I talked to him bout Wat was bothering me n he said he didn't mean it that way that he likes my body the way it is but it dosnt hurt if it improves.

That's a backhanded compliment! Tell him to pay for the upgrades or stfu. If he says no then ask why he brought it up. I would so not let that go.

Then the conversation may need to move forward with physical attraction being so important that you two should only be friends. If he whines a bit good. Tell him to call you in a couple days.

When he calls back tell him that you'll go on the date,  but it better be romantic and he better cheese it up. And if he insults you again you two are through.  Girl you are in demand!

Today I talked to him bout sexual reassignment surgery and he told me he dosnt want me to get it that he wants me to keep my penis. I'm honestly thinking of breaking up wit him for saying that.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 11, 2016, 06:31:19 PM
Today I talked to him bout sexual reassignment surgery and he told me he dosnt want me to get it that he wants me to keep my penis. I'm honestly thinking of breaking up wit him for saying that.

Yeah girl, this is a laundry basket of red flags.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 10, 2016, 11:45:28 PM
Today I told him that a guy I use to hook up wit sexual organ was bigger than his n he got really upset like really so I got pay back. . . .

Maybe there's something I'm missing, but it doesn't seem like a good idea to antagonize him.  You've got lots of good reasons to get out of the relationship.  But insulting him doesn't serve any good purpose.  It just means he will badmouth you to everyone long after you're gone.

Quote from: itsApril on February 11, 2016, 07:07:35 PM
Maybe there's something I'm missing, but it doesn't seem like a good idea to antagonize him.  You've got lots of good reasons to get out of the relationship.  But insulting him doesn't serve any good purpose.  It just means he will badmouth you to everyone long after you're gone.

He is disrespectful and rude from what I can tell. Every ex I've had talked bad afterwards. Who cares.

Unless he's willing to pay for the upgrades... Well, definitely doesn't sound like worthy boyfriend material. Being that rough and telling ya what to do with your body are things that don't say anything good bout him.

By the way, well played on the p**** comparison lol. They always go mad with that looool

Naw girl, run awaaay. You can do so much better. This guy is not worth it, just to have a boyfriend. Trust me, I went through that already. Was so excited to have a boyfriend, and even made the mistake of moving in with him too quickly. I ended it after a year of being depressed, stressed out, and emotionally abused. Don't settle for anyone who is going to make you question your worth or make you feel like you need to be better for him. Don't settle for anyone who is going to put you down and treat you like crap, no matter how much they say 'I was just kidding, can't you take a joke?' It's hard to recognize that kind of abuse when you don't have much experience with men. I didn't until I was in the middle of it...

It can be hard competing against someones ex as I have learned. For my boyfriend I'm the first transgendered person he has dated, but never the less still having to live up to the previous ex. You have to forge your own path with him.
I would won't worry about competing with who she was and what she had with him in their relationship. Let yours stand for it self. Guys will try and compare, but they care about us they will not hold you to who they were. I'm not saying we may not have to fight with the baggage that result from those relationships because often we do. The key is to be yourself and allow your relationship to grow on it's own merits. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 11, 2016, 06:31:19 PM
Today I talked to him bout sexual reassignment surgery and he told me he dosnt want me to get it that he wants me to keep my penis. I'm honestly thinking of breaking up wit him for saying that.

This could be dangerous for your own progress.
You should proceed in your transition as you feel it fits you.
They are likely to hold you back for personal reasons.


hugs

"Just started dating"? Also, when he tells you that ANY part of you isn't that Female, it's disrespectful to you. You ARE a Woman, you ARE a Female.

To me, that would have been our last date.

I don't care if Channing Tatum dated me, you disrespect me like THAT in any way, you can talk to the Hand.

Run girl, run! This guy sounds like a total creep. He sounds like a misogynist, and a fetishist who doesn't respect personal boundaries and choices you make about what to do with your body. Stay away from guys like that, he doesn't respect women at all, even if you were cisgender, he would be still cutting you down about your body. Worse yet, he is asking you to remain dysphoric for his own sexual pleasure.