This is a spin off for the topic and poll that Sebby Michelangelo created:

"When you wake up the next day, would you like to wake up as cisgender".

A majority (thus far) replies that they´d gladly wake up cis, some said that they weren´t sure (or that it depends) and some said they were okay or even happy about being trans. There were some curious voices and thus I thought we could discuss it some more in here 

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This is my reason as to why I´m okay with being trans;

For the first 27 years of my life I identified as female. For this reason, I see my old self as female. My old self grew up in a very violent household and survived over a decade of physical abuse; dealing with the mental aftermath of it later on.

She´s my hero. I would not want to be anyone or anything else. She fought so that I could have the privilege of wondering who I really was, and the freedom of actually starting to transition so I can stop looking to the past, and instead hope for the future.

That doesn´t mean that I actually thorougly enjoy being trans. I could do without the dysphoria. Everybody is different, so let´s hear from others! 

So where's the poll? 

All that matters is you being happy with yourself. One size does not fit all.

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on January 25, 2016, 10:45:05 AM
So where's the poll? 

Huh? 
I would gladly include a poll if I still can, but I wasn´t aware that we should make one. You´re welcome to suggest anything of course!

Quote from: iKate on January 25, 2016, 10:48:19 AM
All that matters is you being happy with yourself. One size does not fit all.

Of course  I don´t  judge anyone who feels differently than me. But it´s fun to talk about.

Just teasing!    I love polls, though, if you add one I'll vote. 

Hugs, Devlyn

Trans people are superheros. We learn a whole new set of mannerisms, way of talking, and way of interacting with the world, all while doing our jobs and living our lives amid discrimination and marginalization. Despite all that, we manage to show the world that your sex assigned at birth doesn't need to be a prison.

We rock!!!

Quote from: suzifrommd on January 25, 2016, 01:05:21 PM
Trans people are superheros. We learn a whole new set of mannerisms, way of talking, and way of interacting with the world, all while doing our jobs and living our lives amid discrimination and marginalization. Despite all that, we manage to show the world that your sex assigned at birth doesn't need to be a prison.

We rock!!!

Really enjoyed your past Suzi, totally agree!!

Yes, I am happy with being trans.

I want to be me.  I've been searching for the real Me ever since I got out of my parents' house and the Ante-Bellum South, and I'm realizing that that Me is trans, probably more trans than I realize.  There's a joy in getting closer to that Me that really leaves everything else in the dust.

Not that there aren't downsides.

* I hate looking like a fat middle-aged (male) salesman.
* There's a certain amount of crap you get, though far less than I expected.
* And there's a lot of internalized crap to get rid of.

But, honestly, the hardest stuff I have to deal with isn't really trans-related at all.  It might have had a different form if I'd been born a girl, but it might have been worse.

+ + +

Actually, the closer I get to Me, the more I realize that she is very different from who I've always thought I was.  A lot more spontaneous, a lot more emotional and passionate and cuddly.  I also think maybe she's a lot more empathic and loving and giving, though that might just be wishful thinking.

I think maybe that's why I cry happy-sad tears when I hear about Jazz Jennings, or CJ (from raisingmyrainbow.com) or M (from gendermom.com)  I'm happy for those children that their parents are sensitive to and accepting of who they are, and sad for the child of my parents that nobody wanted to know and I never got to know.

It's always been impossible to lie to myself well; if trans is what I am then am I OK being what I am? Yeah, I suppose I am. I didn't survive x years in this life and go through what I've been to come out hating myself.

That said "trans" is just a word, an identifier for other people. Like my name is an identifier for other people - when I speak to myself in my own head, I don't need to use my name to know I'm referring to myself as I already know everything about myself I care to. Same with trans, to me. Now if you were to ask am I OK with other people calling me trans, that's a whole different thing.

I can't decide... I don't like myself or my past self much and I don't know if that's to do with being trans. If I'd been born cis I might have just as many problems. I'd still be queer for one thing lol

Also, I met my boyfriend presenting as female. That's something I wouldn't have wanted to miss out on.

being cis is overrated .

I prefer being cisgender instead, if I could choose. Being transgender is a disaster for me.

Quote from: Asche on January 30, 2016, 08:25:02 AMI want to be me.  I've been searching for the real Me ever since I got out of my parents' house and the Ante-Bellum South, and I'm realizing that that Me is trans, probably more trans than I realize.  There's a joy in getting closer to that Me that really leaves everything else in the dust.

Can´t agree more with everything you just wrote 

Yeah it does have downsides too. If you accept yourself as such - the idea of "I´m trans and that´s okay", the dysphoria and the internal/external difficulties would still be there. On the flip side, if you´d been born CIS, then you would probably also have struggles in your life.

For example for those who have mental struggles: if they had been born cis, they could wonder: if I woke up tomorrow morning, would I rather be completely sane? The thing is, Yes I would have prefferred waking up completely sane, but then half of my life experience would have dissappeared.

I will never even consider myself  "trans" let alone be happy about it. I only use the word for question purposes in here and the doctors but I personally don't like it for myself.   I don't want to get into too much details but to me being born with the female genitalia is the curse that haunts me to this day. So in my point of view, instead of '"designated" female at birth' I look at it like "DIAGNOSED".

Having had 2 major sufferings eliminated by having top surgery&hysto, I could only forgive the terrorizing metamorphosis called puberty, plus a decade of suffering IF I woke up the next day with a REAL PENIS along with that hole shutting up for good despite being stuck with a humongous hip.

I was mainly talking about waking up and suddenly be CIS (which I would not want). Even if other people also think of it that way, it does not necessarily imply that they´re happy about the condition. Although some can be.

My dysphoria also kills me, causes major anxious breakdowns, panic attacks, fits of rage. But I still am okay with being trans (note: not the same either as being o.k with calling yourself trans).

If I woke up after going through the rigmarole of transition as cis, that would probably be in line with my kinda luck.

But to wake up cis - i.e. to no longer notice all the things that don't feel right - probably wouldn't be a bad thing, mostly. I don't identify as a trans person, it's not a part of my identity so by waking up cis I wouldn't be losing something.

That said I just can't imagine everything being hunky dory just like that, so it seems like an unanswerable question

Well its certainly better than not being trans and having to not be myself.

Id rather not be. Not at all. I wish I was the way Im striving to be. I guess life doesnt work that way though, you dont choose what you are before your birth, it just happens.

So not having to accept something I couldnt control? Im okay with that.