Do others experience this kind of underground culture type of thing, I've noticed that the more my face feminizes the more that women smile at me for no reason other than like acknowledging some form of sisterhood. When I was pretending to be male all those years I very rarely had women for no reason just smile at me . Like today I'm sitting in Einstein Bagels contemplating the recent verification of  Albert Einstein's 100 year old hypothesis of gravity waves and sitting at my computer with the blankest of looks while women walked by heading into the ordering line they looked at me and smiled forcing me almost to return the smile out of some sort of female sense of duty. In all those years of pretending to be male I rarely from just spontaneous looking at woman ever received the same magnitude of acknowledgement of my existence. I really love it , but I kind of don't understand whether it's because my face is more feminine and I am now a member of the club or is it something else. Guys rarely smile at me whether before or after starting hormones , Guys will curiously look at me which has  been more pronounced lately , but they don't smile. Women seem to be going out of their way even before the first cup of morning coffee to smile. It's great , but curiously different from my past experience.

You know? I am seeing more and more of this. Everywhere women seem so much more connected than guys. I see smiles, compliments out of nowhere on my clothes/shoes. etc. You are definitely not alone.

I get that every single day now. If I'm in a bad mood at work women will pass and give me a sympathetic smile. I'm not pretty and I barely pass, but I'm completely accepted, even by other female employees here who know I'm trans. Something else, try just starting a random conversation with another woman in a public place. They'll treat you like a long time friend! So much better than being a guy!

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it's an underground culture I never knew about , but I love it.

I'm finding that with both women and men.  I expect that a big part of it is that I'm not walking around with a permanent scowl anymore looking like I am ready to kill someone.


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yea, that permanent scowl .

I think it's a woman thing. For example this morning upon exciting the subway a young lady just smiled at me like 'hey girl, what's up'

I am also noticing that when the train is almost full and there are a few unoccupied seats, rest assured a woman will always sit right beside a woman than a guy. It's an interesting dynamic.

it's a very nice dynamic.

I noticed it. I also noticed I didn't feel the same way others feel about it... being male in the head. I see everybody as the same, except women are more enigmatic to me. But I noticed they would gravitate to me based on appearance and I would somehow not quite know why, or how on earth to respond to it, except awkwardly.

I think it's a sort of acknowledgement of the shared experiences as women. Or maybe a sort of preference for female company. And I don't think men - as I don't - feel any kind of automatic brotherhood just on the basis of our sex. We can have a connection, but it usually revolves around something we have in common, some activity or something. But women can somehow hit it off very well very easily sometimes.

If I had to guess, I'd say it was something human females evolved over time to help them out building the different kinds of relationships and hierarchies among themselves than they would with men. Women seem a bit more co-operative on the whole than men, might have something to do with this ability.

I know before I transitioned I worked for a company on the night crew. You couldn't be in a more divisive environment with all males.

Guess it's the equivalent of the "guy nod".

Quote from: stephaniec on February 12, 2016, 03:18:57 PM
I know before I transitioned I worked for a company on the night crew. You couldn't be in a more divisive environment with all males.

I can believe it.

That said I probably wouldn't notice. I'm an incurable loner.

I notice it too!

I kinda notice it now, and I'm not even presenting yet. Women seem friendlier, or maybe I'm just friendlier and it makes me more approachable.