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Doctors misgendering, not too surprising?

Started by makipu, February 15, 2016, 04:43:24 PM

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makipu

Apparently and unfortunately, since (although open minded)people; doctors included (who are in a LGBT clinic) rely on stereotypical looks rather than what my gender states in their system, misgendered me by referring to me as a 'she' (which I take it as s***)
It basically makes me come to the conclusion of having my documents that matter changed to MALE didn't make a difference when dealing with people  aside from having a positive impact personally on me.

I am male because I say so and nothing more.
I don't have to look or act like one therefore.
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Rachel

If you are in a safe place then misgendering should be corrected. Doctors at a LGBT clinic must be corrected. I correct people when they make a mistake in a kind way.
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Mariah

It's so important to correct them so they know that it isn't excitable. Hugs
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Devlyn

To make sure I understand, your doctor who knows you're transgender misgendered you? Unless it was a slip, that would be extremely inappropriate.
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makipu

This wasn't the same doctor who knows me but another specialist doctor who I saw for the first time but the place is LGBT specific already so doesn't it only make sense at the very least to check my information prior to my appointment? 
This is the main reason I avoid making friends but because I was surprised when this happened in such place, I didn't correct it that time.  Nevertheless, I won't be going to them again.

At another facility (non LGBT related) I used to see a specialist prior to my gender change (on insurance but it said male on ID) I put up with their reports stating sentences like "This patient is a __ years old FEMALE ... AND EVEN AFTER updating the insurance to male as well... Needless to say solely because of that very fact , I quit going there too.  I mean why can't they simply LOOK AT WHAT IT SAYS or even be considerate enough to ASK me?
Nothing of the sort.
I am male because I say so and nothing more.
I don't have to look or act like one therefore.
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Moneyless

My GP who has dealt with a lot of transgender patients and refers to me by my preferred name for some reason still referred to me as a 'she' on my referral letter.
started T 12/04/16 - 18 years old
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AnonyMs

Perhaps whats on the paper needs to reflect your birth gender for legal and/or medical reasons. They should still address you by your preferred gender of course.
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makipu

No, I don't think that's the case AnonyMs. I would understand it if it was related to female specific body parts but those reasons for my visits weren't even gender specific. I am already legally male.  Unfortunately, this has to do with the fact that I don't look (nor want to ) like a typical male, aka "non  passing" state.
I am male because I say so and nothing more.
I don't have to look or act like one therefore.
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Valentijn

I'm sorry that happened to you. Like Devlyn Marie said, extremely inappropriate – but sadly not surprising. I had one doctor, who mainly did trans-related healthcare, use the wrong pronoun for me during a HRT consult. It's funny now, but was very discouraging at the time.

In fact, I've had several trans-focused providers (and their staff) say all sorts of ignorant things. They're often the only game in town, so many patients don't feel like they can speak up.

On the other hand, I've had several wonderful doctors who knew absolutely nothing about transgender healthcare be very considerate about pronoun usage, including my former gynecologist. At a time when I was rarely read as male. So, yes, people can get it right, even if they're intimately involved with your below-the-belt region.

They just need to, y'know, try harder. :eusa_doh:
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