I once joked here implying, "the reduction in the sex drive is not a good thing" but I'm wondering is it really not a good thing.

Is it easily or harder to fall in love with a reduced sex drive ?

Or, because of the other effects of the hormone therapy, you don't even missed the reduction ?

I hope I'm getting my questions across in a coherent matter.

The answer to your question is very person because it's different from person to person.

Somebody who is highly sexual might not be comfortable with the loss of sex drive. It is one of the primary reasons a year of HRT is given before surgery is permitted. A year will give you plenty of time to decide if you will be comfortable with the loss of sex drive for the remainder of your life.

For others like me, a strong sex drive was a curse because we didn't know what to do with it. The intense feeling go against the grain of our somewhat passive personality. For us, the loss of sex drive is welcome. I am sure that were the right person come into my life, I could become interested but it would be a more romantic draw instead of a sexual draw.

Thank You. I guess it is a personal thing whether that aspect is a positive or negative.

Except for the reduction in sex drive, I can't thing of a single thing I would miss that I will lose during the journey.

Maybe, I can look at the sex drive as a lot of gas for a car that wouldn't drive.

The way I am now, someone just hugging me gives me negative feelings.

A good thing. I'm not sexually active, so I don't have to worry about the loss of intimacy. Instead I get time, energy, and cleanliness from avoiding solo activities.

Plus, said activities are quite triggering for my dysphoria, so their absence is welcome.

I do a lot better without

I am a virgin, so the sex drive is just something to occupy my mind. Occupying ALOT of my mind.
I'm just wondering if it is something that would be missed.

But, I'm thinking, being yourself and have less sex drive is still FAR FAR FAR BETTER that NOT being yourself and have strong urges.

Quote from: Stephanie Sammantha on February 20, 2016, 10:00:39 PM

Is it easily or harder to fall in love with a reduced sex drive ?

Love or lust?  For me lust diminished and love increased.

Quote from: Stevie on February 20, 2016, 10:30:03 PM
Love or lust?  For me lust diminished and love increased.

WOW, that sounds amazing.
I hope that is my case.

Love Vs Sex: To me, love is the winner by far.

On a personal level, I'm indifferent about losing my libido. However, it does leave me feeling a bit insecure with my girlfriend, as I'm never in the mood for ANY form of sexual frivolity. I don't even like touching her 'down there' any more. She says it's okay, but I do feel bad for her and am concerned she'll end up straying one day.

I do still feel love for her though.

Reduction was an awesome thing for me. I felt somewhat controlled by my libido in the past and that dragon got a spear through its heart. I truly felt liberated. It bottomed out about some months back and has been returning in a more feminine form i believe. Now arousal is very connected with all parts of intimacy now including communications, other senses and it is just more pleasant all around. My drive has started to increase again in this new way.

Throughout though, i have been able to maintain intimacy with my wife, ( sure i did not feel like it many times, but that is not her issue), but of course the mechanics of it changed somewhat.

I was so happy to see it go away.  It's been an uncontrollable monster since I was 12 and the degree of relief of having it finally gone is probably incomprehensible to anyone but maybe us.

The feeling of constantly craving sexual relief but being unable to really satisfy that craving more than momentarily because of wrong body problems is frustrating beyond description. 


Sapere Aude

I'm not on HRT yet.
One's sex drive can be effected by many things. Not just emotional ones.
I have some digestive troubles, sex things are not very fun with digestive troubles.
Also I believe tucking can effect physical functionality, at least I have found. Maybe I'm doing something wrong.

And also I have never been one to just want to jump in the sack with someone. I've only slept with 2 women. And I''m still a virgin when it comes to activity with men. Though I have recently been honest with myself about my attractions over the years.

Depression can also kill my libido, so I'm going into this with not much of a true sex drive.
What I do with myself I suspect is more anxiety driven. And to be honest has become somewhat of a bother.

I don't think I've ever really "made love" with someone.

Hello everyone, I am of the belief that doctors used HRT to shift me into neutral prior to SRS.  Could assume they did not want me to miss the boy parts.

Still on HRT and get pretty frisky, tail up in the air and all. 

Anne

EOM

Since back when I was a teenager I have always had a kind of war
against my male parts and my MSD .. I just wanted to turn it off.
So HRT affect on libido does not hurt my feelings at all. Just don't want
my wife to know.

Quote from: Stephanie Sammantha on February 20, 2016, 10:34:34 PM
WOW, that sounds amazing.
I hope that is my case.

Love Vs Sex: To me, love is the winner by far.

You might talk with your endo about fine tuning t levels if you should miss something.

Many people use toys like the leo smart wand large or magic wands to have slow and female like experiences ... with the possibility of fantasies...

overall the body should become more sensitive to touch ... and fantasies might become more important than pictures...


hugs

Not everyone loses their sex drive. Mine was good then faded for ten years while my T reduced. Then I realized I'm trans, started HRT and was surprised to find out that it came back, transformed, more controllable and better than ever. I have woken up in the middle of the night and had to, ahem!, do something about it. I'm a happy girl!

Quote from: Laura_7 on February 21, 2016, 01:44:42 PM
You might talk with your endo about fine tuning t levels if you should miss something.

Many people use toys like the leo smart wand large or magic wands to have slow and female like experiences ... with the possibility of fantasies...

overall the body should become more sensitive to touch ... and fantasies might become more important than pictures...


hugs

Even before hrt, I find the pictures only to be starting points for a fantasy.
I don't like working with a blank canvas.

Quote from: Stephanie Sammantha on February 20, 2016, 10:00:39 PM
I once joked here implying, "the reduction in the sex drive is not a good thing" but I'm wondering is it really not a good thing.

Is it easily or harder to fall in love with a reduced sex drive ?

Or, because of the other effects of the hormone therapy, you don't even missed the reduction ?

I hope I'm getting my questions across in a coherent matter.

For me, getting physically aroused was a huge dysphoric trigger.  When that stopped, it was amazing for me.  Now I can be intimate without being reminded of it. 

In truth, my sex drive hasn't diminished; only my body's response to it "down there".  Sex is finally fun and it's only going to get more fun down the road.

First I feared that I will miss my sex drive but surprisingly I feel much better without constantly thinking about masturbation a.s.o. Still if I want to it's quite easy to get aroused.

So I'm really happy with my current situation as it is.

I thought I would miss my sex drive, till it went, now I don't!