Hey i know I've been posting a lot and i don't want people to think I'm just trying to get 15 posts. I really like the suggestions and stuff but anyway that's not what this post is about.



So lately i have been giving up on trying to transition at all but not because i don't think i want to anymore (because I've always wanted to) but i am because of other people. I feel like when people say "do what makes you happy" it's all a lie because whenever i get told that by someone it's like a big slap in the face. People lie to me and so does my mom. My mom says that all the time than like an hour later my happieness means nothing. I'm the most happy when I'm feeling feminine and i can dress feminine and i even always wanted to be a girl. I can't do anything feminine because I'm always expected to be the man everywhere i go and i hate it. I know hate is a strong word but i hate it. All i feel lately is extremely mad at everything. I just don't really know what I'm gonna do anymore. I wanna transition really bad but all i think about is how others will feel about it.

It may sound selfish but when you make the decision to transition it has to be what you want and and your opinion is the only one that matters. You are the one who will have to live your life as a man or a woman. Which role will be painful and which role will make you happy.

When I made the decision to come out, I was ready to lose everything I knew to have a shot at happiness. I couldn't continue to live the old life unless I was moving toward my new life. The decision is your but many people on the site say things like "if only I transitioned 20 years ago". What will you say 20 years from now.

I would most likely lose my mind if i waited 20 years and i would regret not doing it

Quote from: _Sophia_ on February 21, 2016, 09:27:45 PM
I would most likely lose my mind if i waited 20 years and i would regret not doing it

Isn't that the answer to your question?

Transitioning or not really depends on your own emotional reserves and determination. We need a strong support system, time, money and patience in order do it. I know you hate when people say, "as long as you're happy," but they mean it. In reality, the people close to you won't define their happiness based on whether or not you transition. You have to find your happiness, and hold onto it.
If your choices are: be miserable and stuck wondering if you should or shouldn't transition, or starting to transition and finding out whether you can handle it. I'd say the second choice is the better chance to stay true to yourself. Although it's a bit reductive to say you have only two choices. In reality, transitioning is a series of steps you take. Finding a therapist, getting an evaluation for HRT, researching if you want to do surgery, learning new fashion, hair and makeup style, etc.. It's not anyone one first step and it can be very slow and frustrating.
I can't answer your question for you, only you can determine when and if you're ready.


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I appreciate the advice. I think I'm going to ask my therapist what she thinks i should do too. I was going to tell her that i have been thinking about getting hormones if I'm able to and i think I'm still gonna tell her because i really do want to see if i could be able to. I hope i work some stuff out and get hormones 

Just to remember when you beginning your HRT you cannot stop.

Luanne

I can understand the weight of the decision. I can out to my wife about enjoying heels and stockings 8 months ago, and since then found that more and more, my self image just doesn't match up with how I feel. Now, I dress complete with makeup and stuff a bra, but don't know how to proceed from here. My wife is supportive, but I worry how it will affect my two children and the relationships outside of my family unit. Some days I want to just get it over with and move forward, other days I feel like I am ridiculous for thinking the way I do... I am definitely beginning to search for a counselor to give me some advice now... But it is not an easy decision to make.... If you don't mind, I would appreciate if you pass on any advice that your counselor gives, so those of us who have not found one yet may benefit vicariously through you. I wish you the best, and happiness now matter your decision!!!

I can not give any advice at all. When I met my Gender Dysphoria two weeks ago I already done a lot of reading plus research, by the time for the counseling session I already know what I want to do. So the session just another steps for my transition. Since I know this is the most important decision I have to make, and I know I am not regret when I begin my hormone replacement therapy in September this year. Good luck to you Tasha.

Luanne

Thank you Luanne, it's nice to have a place where I can talk freely about all of this and actually get replies. I tried to join another site, but was not let in because I was not 100 % sure that I was going to transition at some point. It's good to hear from people and be included so I can get some help figuring it all out.


Tasha

Quote from: Tasha_ on February 22, 2016, 03:18:51 PM
Thank you Luanne, it's nice to have a place where I can talk freely about all of this and actually get replies. I tried to join another site, but was not let in because I was not 100 % sure that I was going to transition at some point. It's good to hear from people and be included so I can get some help figuring it all out.


Tasha

We have to begin some where and Susan's is good place to talk about transgender and transition without worrying about other judgment. Glad you're here.

Luanne