Idk Wat to do cause I'm in a bar n there's loud music so it's hard to sound female yelling.

That's one of the main reasons I hate loud places.

I feel your pain, my voice is my Achilles heel too.

I've been working on training my voice and think I've found a voice therapist that I'm hoping to start working with in the near future.   I'm also seriously considering VFS but would like to exhaust every other option first.

I avoid loud places, fast food drive thrus, and talking on the telephone at all costs.  One day hopefully I won't have to though.

I struggle with the same thing, sometimes I manage to get my voice sound quite feminine but I have no volume so I try to avoid loud places but that's obviously not a solution. I just cannot go full-time until I resolve this to some extent.

I have never been able to get the volume out of a trained voice that I had before. This is not to say I can't make myself heard most of the time. I am around people who's hearing isn't what it once was and around idling heavy trucks so I can project for that. If the noise is extremely loud, I wait or move closer so I can be heard. Years of using a trained voice has allowed me get the most out of it without falling into the old voice. While a woman's voice is piercing, if you want real volume, you need the lower pitch of a male voice. Don't damage your voice by attempting to generate this degree of volume.

I also hate having to raise my voice as I can't get it to a range reasonably comfortable with feminine tones. But such is life for myself.
Usually my phone voice is feminine enough and has been ever since I have been talking on phones. So I have just been simulating that in my daily life and successful part of the time in which I do get gendered right.

Kate <3

The problem when yelling is that you need to let a lot of air out at once, so the technique most of us use is impossible to use this way.

You will need a control over the whole way this air take to get out to actually yell in a feminine way. Learn how to use your mouth especially to reduce the flow and up the vibration to the maximum, thats about the only control you have over your voice when yelling.

I've always been quiet. I accept the fact that people can't hear me in loud places. I do, however, have a piercing laugh. You can hear that in a bar, but it doesn't communicate much. :-/

You really just need to practice and be consistent, and eventually it'll get a bit easier because your vocal cords will change a bit. I also recommend practicing varying your pitch often when you're by yourself. Go low, go high, find your range. Make it all muscle memory, and you'll naturally find the extremes. Singing is also good exercise for it, whether you can or not. What helps most is exercising your vocal range so that you can better control your voice, and this will also help it from awkwardly cracking or squeaking when you're around the extreme ends of your range.