I see this question a lot and to my surprise most people answer no. I'm not going to lie, I would. I would do anything to wake up cisgender. Even if I lose a part of me, even if it changes who I am and even if I don't experience some things that I would have while trans, what about all the experiences that I would have while cis? How about not worrying about surgery, hormones and discrimination? Not worrying that you won't get a relationship because who would want to  be with a transguy when they can just go out with a cisguy. Not worrying about awkward sex or not being able to have your own child. Awkwardly coming across people who knew you before your transition, taking forever to get your sex changed legally, coming out, the depression that comes with those teenage years and puberty. Maybe I only think this way because I haven't started my transition yet, I don't know. I know that some cisgender people go through stuff like this, but not quite in the way we do.

Sure, I'm sure being transgender has made me a much smarter, stronger and independent individual, but I don't think anything can trade for my want to be cisgender. I don't like being trans one bit.

For me, definitely.
Other than the dysphoria, considering the medical costs, the travel costs, the stress it puts on my parents - I'd definitely go for it.
Though I do think it'd be really weird to remember yourself/your body one way but everyone else have no clue what you're talking about. I'd probably just prefer it if I woke up that day like that and everyone still remembered me as I once was/currently am but was just kinda like "whoa, that's crazy, it's a miracle" and then just kind of go on with our lives after that.

It is fine to be born cis-gender, but would we appreciate it as much if we had not have the trans experience?  I see a lot of frustrations out there among people who are very cis but are not happy with the hand life has dealt them.  We are aware that we had a choice, and we made the right one.  And knowing that, I believe, gives the potential to be much happier in our now genders roles than any cis.

Very interesting replies. I didn't expect so many people not wanting to wake up as cis.

It would lessen so much complication if that happened yeah.

It would be awesome to just...suddenly magically wake up cisgender. Especially back when I lived with my parents. Like, imagine that, I cant control being transgender, and I have to accept some things about myself (I can be a male, but I cant truly change my past experiences living female, or my chromosome, or my genitals realistically), so if I suddenly woke up a boy and it was not in my control, THEY would have to accept it instead. It would be a shock, though. I'd have to deal with the shock or drama of those around me needed to come to terms with the idea that I'll be stuck that way forever.

Edit: I had not realized the question was saying if everything else would be transformed as if I was male too, including people around me feeling as if I always was and all my identification being that way. Even better, yes all the way!

It strange to me that so many wouldnt change immediately. I mean...I love all the experiences that make me who I am that I wouldnt have otherwise, but I am a man, not a transman. Its strange to me that people would choose not to live that way.
Honestly I only tie with the trans comunity
because they have the same issue I do, not because I have some pride in being the way I am.

Now had the question been changed, what if I was born male and raised that way all my life, well...it would be nice but at the same time Im not sure how it would be. Its an entirely new experience and Id be a new person. And Im confident in the one I am.


Noooow as for if I was a cis female. Its even harder to imagine this, I could only ever imagine wanting this as a way to keep the peace. I would only wish I didnt have these awful dreadful feelings of changing my gender because its wrong and bad and frowned upon. I didnt ask for these feelings, it would not be me to be female, but it would be "correct", and I would never have to worry about social ostracization

Quote from: Sebby Michelango on February 18, 2016, 05:54:36 AM
Very interesting replies. I didn't expect so many people not wanting to wake up as cis.

Probably because one's experiences and memories are more of what makes up a person than just what they look like. You'd be wiping out who you are in your head to wake up with no memory of what life has been like for you. That's hard to imagine. Like imagining being a completely different person. I might as well imagine death. I don't know at all what it is like to be dead, or to be someone else.

Technically I am cisgender since I haven't transitioned yet. Lol.

Would I want to wake up female? Absolutely. That's the whole point in transitioning, right? It would save my lots of time and money.

I don't think any of us want to be trans, we want to be the sex we feel we should have been born.


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Quote from: RavenMoon on February 27, 2016, 05:12:06 PM
Technically I am cisgender since I haven't transitioned yet. Lol.

Would I want to wake up female? Absolutely. That's the whole point in transitioning, right? It would save my lots of time and money.

I don't think any of us want to be trans, we want to be the sex we feel we should have been born.


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If you're assigned male at birth and identify yourself as a woman, you're not cisgender. Then you're a trans woman. But if you're assigned male at birth and identify yourself as a man, you're cisgender. Cis means your gender identity and sex is matching. If they don't match, you're trans or non-binary. You can still be trans before transistion, as long your gender identity don't match your sex. So in the original definition you're not cis.

No!

I am what I am.

I do not need brainwashing.

Aly

Yes, as long as I don't wake up as a cisgender male.

I don't know on one hand waking up as a woman would be so awesome . i would mean the years i wasted hiding never happened.
But on the other hand I'd lose my kids and thought rips my heart out.
So I guess I'll stay on the journey .but nice thought.

 
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