Dear Friends,
my name is Lady Godiva. I am new in the forum and I joined cause I would like to get some advice about the situation I am living lately.. Around two years ago I moved to a bigger city for work. There I got to know a lovely young woman - then identified as a lesbian trainer with girlfriend. Me and her ( let's call her G) suddenly got very close. The energetic relationship we shared, lil by lil, got enriched with more than just being friends and though straight, I was feeling a strong attraction in the air. G girlfriend, a very young girl, pushed by jealousy, one day called me, stating very clearly that G was hers, that I had misunderstood and thus, that I had to stop bothering G with chat and messages and all that we had shared before. Hurt by G's silence to such action, I forced myself to stop looking at her in the eyes (what we always did since we met) and to stop talking etc as well. G never mentioned anything to this overall confusion, but rather kept behaving as nothing ever happened, looking for my sight while training and starting conversations ( that I never replied). Now, after almost a year of silence and distance, me and G are getting closer. Tension between us is less strong, and when we look at each other, our eyes and faces immediately get luminous and smile. It's really unbelievable and so hard to explain.. However, during these months, I was told G is determined to start the FTM process. She (G) told me in few occasion, in fact, that she was not a girl but a guy, thus I had to see her as that - but I surely did not expect to ever hear such a statement soon after. Said that, now that we are re-approaching ourselves, I don't know how to behave: I mean, if I'd behave like a mature young woman, I should let the past misunderstandings behind, to approach her hand-outstretched, offering all my friendship and support in such an important moment. If I'd respond to G's girlfriend's reaction, on the other side, I should leave the situation between me and G as cold as it was/is and just go on my way indifferent to what is going on. G's transition FTM will surely affect all our group of friends I guess, and maybe she will need someone "out of the LGBT group" to talk to. I don't know.. Everything is so new to me. I had gay friends in the last city I lived, but this reality is much more complex.
How should I consider then G, as a lesbian or as a guy? I mean, the common lesbian friends say she is not a lesbian but a guy. G has a lesbian girlfriend, they visit the local realities for lesbians but she wants to get transition. One day, in add G was seen kissing with passion with a guy.. I am just asking to better get myself an idea of what is going on.. And please forgive my imprecise terminology if by any reason I sounded disrespectful to some of you.
