When I first started transition i did not consider myself a woman but knew with certainty that i was not really a man. I went thru a period of feeling gender queer and then like a girl in puberty. It took me some time to accept myself as a woman and part of that was recognizing my non binary nature and wanting to own it thru experience. Now out over three years i do own that simple title of woman. I am also happy to be recognized as a transgender woman. This is acceptance of my entire life experience that includes decades of living as a man. I feel like a new and different person but laying Jim to rest did not erase those important experiences I shared with so many. Those experiences helped to shape the person I am today.
I really enjoy where I am and for simplicity will confirm I am a woman....and more. To love someone and really know them means acknowledging their entire life IMO.