Quote from: Mitternacht on March 14, 2016, 08:40:15 PM

Some yes, others no. I did not switch groups because of transitioning, more just because I like to travel and move every year or so. Some of my closest friends met me right at the beginning, before I had even chosen a name. I think it's quite really easy if you just act as you always have and let them know what you are thinking or if something they do makes you uncomfortable.


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I'm always thinking and spaced out. I unintentionally ignore people in the middle of a conversation and then don't know what they said and they get annoyed because I'm not a very good listener unless someone's showing me how to do a task.

I switched jobs (kind of, currently hold two jobs) and I'm one of the guys at work. It's a very liberating experience, definitely, seeing how I never managed to accomplish that pre-transition when I still lived as a girl, though I always desired it.

No one seems to know or suspect and I haven't been outed since only my boss knows about it (difficult not to, seeing how I also had my top surgery about two weeks ago).

Not being out to some of them does stress me out though, because I am also very aware of how I am limited in how I can participate in some activities that they take for granted I should be able to participate in as they do (e.g. going to the gym and change in the locker room). I've been thinking to maybe eventually tell some of the guys I speak more to, but we'll see. The people seem pretty chill thus far, but I'm unsure how they'll react and how it'll alter their perception of me. I am out to some of my friends online though I haven't met them and we are also in a way, "a bunch of guys" though the group is generally speaking, mixed and they treat me like a guy, too. It's nice to feel equal to them, anyway, and they don't seem to commonly self-reflect over my trans status whatsoever even though they actually know about it.

It'd be easier if I felt closer to these people at work, then maybe I'd dare to open up and tell them because I find it easier that way. I don't like the idea that I'm hiding and I need to come up with weird explanations or excuses for some things I do in order to not accidentally out myself. Maybe other people don't mind it, but i personally find it very stressful.

All of my friends before transition said the same thing or something close approximation of "well, that makes a lot more sense" when I came out. I work in mental health now as a direct service provider taking care of a developmentally disabled client  (who also happens to be a transwoman and she's just adorable) and most of my bosses know. They don't treat me any differently and in fact are really glad that I'm there to explain some things that have been overlooked with my client. She's almost 40 and people haven't really understood her needs until I was able to explain them. I'm usually just teased for being the youngest guy.

Making friends outside of work has been a bit delayed since I only just moved back to the US but I really don't have any problems. They few people I have met don't even ask or think a thing about it. I've been called ma'am by a few people I was introduced to but as soon as I correct them, they just apologize and move on. I live in a weird town that's politically conservative but culturally liberal so most guys just accept me at face value. I haven't been outed much back here in the states but I was outed a few times when I lived in Japan.  Even there the guys where a little surprised at first but they didn't treat me any differently.

I do get teased occasionally for my sweater vests, but I'm just one of the guys.

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Quote from: Ayden on March 15, 2016, 10:06:11 AM
All of my friends before transition said the same thing or something close approximation of "well, that makes a lot more sense" when I came out. I work in mental health now as a direct service provider taking care of a developmentally disabled client  (who also happens to be a transwoman and she's just adorable) and most of my bosses know. They don't treat me any differently and in fact are really glad that I'm there to explain some things that have been overlooked with my client. She's almost 40 and people haven't really understood her needs until I was able to explain them. I'm usually just teased for being the youngest guy.

Making friends outside of work has been a bit delayed since I only just moved back to the US but I really don't have any problems. They few people I have met don't even ask or think a thing about it. I've been called ma'am by a few people I was introduced to but as soon as I correct them, they just apologize and move on. I live in a weird town that's politically conservative but culturally liberal so most guys just accept me at face value. I haven't been outed much back here in the states but I was outed a few times when I lived in Japan.  Even there the guys where a little surprised at first but they didn't treat me any differently.

I do get teased occasionally for my sweater vests, but I'm just one of the guys.

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Are you done with transition and still look feminine?

I wouldn't say I'm done with transition at all. I was on a low does of T for 3 years since I was living overseas. I was off T for a year and now I'm on a regular,  healthy dose.

I am feminine,  but that's just me. I've always been a fem guy. My partner often jokes that outside the bedroom I am a fairy.

Still,  at work I was introduced as female name because I work for the same NPO as my father in law. I've told each person that I'm "male name" and I haven't had a problem. I just correct people and they accept it. 

I just get teased for being a "sweater vest wearing dork". I am that so I honestly can't argue. I do wear sweater vests and I am a huge goofus.


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All my close friends are females and I used to be intimidated and scared of cismen for some reason, not sure why. I guess it's because my brother isn't the greatest person and he's the boy I grew around the most. I do like my father though. I haven't had any problem with cismen, I somehow am passing despite being pre-T so I'm basically a little scrawny 5'3 boy with a high pitched voice and somehow I'm still respected and treated the same as all the other guys by the 6 foot + buff guys who I used to be so afraid of. That's something that really surprised me. I also have a few guy friends who do know and they don't really think anything of it, some have thought it was 'cool' and asked a little too personal questions but they didn't mean it in a negative way.

Quote from: Moneyless on March 19, 2016, 03:27:20 AM
All my close friends are females and I used to be intimidated and scared of cismen for some reason, not sure why. I guess it's because my brother isn't the greatest person and he's the boy I grew around the most. I do like my father though. I haven't had any problem with cismen, I somehow am passing despite being pre-T so I'm basically a little scrawny 5'3 boy with a high pitched voice and somehow I'm still respected and treated the same as all the other guys by the 6 foot + buff guys who I used to be so afraid of. That's something that really surprised me. I also have a few guy friends who do know and they don't really think anything of it, some have thought it was 'cool' and asked a little too personal questions but they didn't mean it in a negative way.

That's great. I'm sure that the younger generations are getting more and more accepting as time goes on and awareness spreads.