Yo, peeps!

I'm Fenix and will be turning 18 very soon. About a month ago, or two idk, me and my step mum realized that I'm probably suffering from Gender Dysphoria and now I've gone around thinking about it pretty much ever since.

Whenever I think about me in a male body, I really feel a desire for it. I just love facial hair and a flat chest would feel so much more right on me instead of these bags of fat... And I figured that with a male body I may would be able to think myself as sexy, now I just think I look weird... So I'm pretty sure about what I want for my body, but I'm very torn over the pronouns.

The thing is, I've never been very feminine and dressed and acted more or less like a boy about my whole life, but every time someone has said "him" to me or called me a boy, I've gotten this uncomfortable cringe-feeling and annoyance. But spontaneous, I think it would be much more easier going by the masculine pronouns, but still, my feelings are saying something else.

I guess They/Them could work, but I'm not entirely sure about that. Also, in Swedish (which where I'm living), the counterpart for English's "They/Them" is "Hen", and I overall just found that word kinda...ugly... and it's not pleasant in my mouth when saying it XD



Bah, I'm so confused about this. It'd be very nice to exchange thoughts and feelings with someone that's sitting in the same boat or maybe sailed a little further than me.

Welcome to Susan's Place. Pronouns and names are strange. Before the transition they sound strange because you have never been called that before. Somewhere in the transition you become comfortable with the new names and pronouns. You also become uncomfortable if somebody uses the wrong name or pronoun.

For now, just relax and don't try to hard to figure it out. Your new name and pronouns will grow on you as you move through treatment.

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Quote from: Dena on March 17, 2016, 03:31:46 PM
Welcome to Susan's Place. Pronouns and names are strange. Before the transition they sound strange because you have never been called that before. Somewhere in the transition you become comfortable with the new names and pronouns. You also become uncomfortable if somebody uses the wrong name or pronoun.

For now, just relax and don't try to hard to figure it out. Your new name and pronouns will grow on you as you move through treatment.

We issue to all new members the following links so you will best be able to use the web site.

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Yes, I know. I've already changed my name from something that I found far too feminine.

But yeah, I guess shouldn't try too hard. I think I'll find myself when/if I'm gonna be investigated when the time come.

And ah, I've already read those

You are permitted two name changes a year so if you want to change you screen name, let me know and I will be happy to change it for you.

I don't think I'll be needing to, but I'll keep that in mind! Thanks!

You can be a guy and be called she, and if you transition and have a male body you might adjust to the thought of being he. I've felt the same way before where I didn't want to be called a she, then when I transitioned I did

I'd say don't worry too much about it , it will happen