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Mother of Transexual Sex Worker

Started by oddbird, March 25, 2016, 03:44:01 AM

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oddbird

I am a mother of a 39 year old transexual (male to female-not altered surgically) woman who has been a prostitute since she was fifteen years old and first transitioning. I supported the transition, but her father did not and she has no contact with him. We have very little contact with each other. I'm wondering if this is common, and it is somewhat urgent because I have a life threatening medical diagnosis and she is not responding to my texts, phone calls or emails. I know she is ok because she is posting photos of herself and her girlfriend vacationing on Catalina Island. It makes me so sad. I feel unloved and unappreciated after all we both went through together and how much I supported her when she needed it. My psychotherapist thinks that she is spoiled and self centered. But I don't want to give up hope. I hate to say it, but before she came out I feel that she was more capable of love, at least towards her family. She came out during a one on one session with her psychiatrist and then during a family session with me. I have seen her website and it seems to me that she is preying on her clients for their money, maybe this is typical of all sex workers, but it is difficult for me to swallow. She had a great education, upbringing and is very talented and intelligent. She is perfectly capable of making a living in another, safer way. I wonder what will happen when her physical beauty is growing old. She is almost forty and is showing signs of aging. She claims on her website that she is in her twenties.
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spacial

Wish I could say something supportive. If she doesn't want to know, then it may simply be a matter of acceptance.

As for preying on her clients, that would seem to go with the territory. Some might say it's what they pay for.  >:-)
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Tessa James

Just want to thank you for your love and concern that is apparently not reciprocated.  My advice to myself and daughter about relationships is that trust is built and a relationship grows best when there are two hands reaching out an equal distance and creating it together.

So sorry your reaching out has yet to connect with that other hand.  Thank you for caring about her.

Sex work is not uncommon among transgender people and that is changing as our acceptance into the greater community continues to produce more options.
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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Laura_7


I'd say try to be persistent ...

don't make reproaches or demands ... just be there and say you want to meet from person to person ...

maybe you can suggest to start anew ... forgetting old stories, just being yourself and enjoying each others company ...


*hugs*
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Dena

Welcome to Susan's Place. The transgender population is a snapshot of society in miniature. As only a small portion of the normal population is involved in the sex trade, only a small portion to the transgender population is involved in the sex trade. The link below will show you how you will find us working in most every conceivable profession. Some of us lose our family when we transition because the family won't accept us but for the most part we value a family that stays with us.

This sounds like you psychiatrist is correct and your only hope is that she will see the light before it's to late and she loses what can't be replaced. The draw for her is great money, little demand on her time, a fun life style and little responsibility but as she is approaching middle age, she will soon have to face the reality that her current life is coming to an end.

I am sorry to see you facing this but I fear that there will be little you can do to change it. Change will only happen when she is ready for it and not before.

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