your own personal Trans 101 FAQ for cis friends on Trans Day of Visibility?

unclesean · March 29, 2016, 04:25:08 PM

Do you have your own personal "how to be cool on trans issues 101" FAQ of stuff you wish cis people understood?

Thinking about making my own list of pet peeves and wishes to send out on the 31st.

unclesean · March 29, 2016, 04:29:20 PM

For example, I hate the term 'FTM' and 'MTF'. If you are saying that a trans guy was "born female", or a trans woman was "born a boy", you are saying that being male or female is what's in your pants. But that's not true. Therefore I don't ever use "FTM" or "MTF".

Laura_7 · March 29, 2016, 05:16:43 PM

Here is a litte FAQ that can help people understand:

https://www.transactiveonline.org/inabind/parentfaq.php

*hugs*

unclesean · March 30, 2016, 02:12:41 PM

Yeah there are a lot of those. GLAAD and PFLAG have good ones.

I was asking more for what y'all personally want people to know that's not on those lists, or that is your personal top priority from those lists. Sometimes the lists don't include things that matter most to me.

JulianaH · March 30, 2016, 09:08:13 PM

My go to response is: I'm gender-gifted

sparrow · March 31, 2016, 12:53:51 AM

I like to dismantle the binary for folk. People often jump to "are you a woman now" and... no. I'm not. Takes a while to convince them that I'm not a man either.

KerryJK · March 31, 2016, 09:06:53 AM

Q: Are those women's/men's clothes?
A: No, they're mine. I have a receipt.

Q: This is a fetish thing really, isn't it?
A: No, I'm not enough of a masochist to battle society my whole life for kicks.

Q: Is this just an attempt to get female privileges?
A: Get back to me on what those are (besides being paid less, harassed sexually and not taken seriously at work) and I'll let you know.

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freebrady2015 · March 31, 2016, 01:57:45 PM

I think a very basic one that a surprising amount of people don't understand is

Trans man = someone assigned female at birth but is a man / identifies as a man / is living his life as a man

Trans woman = someone assigned male at birth but is a woman / identifies as a woman / is living her life as a woman

While my circle of friends know these things for the most part, the public doesn't.

Stevie · March 31, 2016, 02:10:11 PM

Quote from: KerryJK on March 31, 2016, 09:06:53 AM
Q: Are those women's/men's clothes?
A: No, they're mine. I have a receipt.

Q: This is a fetish thing really, isn't it?
A: No, I'm not enough of a masochist to battle society my whole life for kicks.

Q: Is this just an attempt to get female privileges?
A: Get back to me on what those are (besides being paid less, harassed sexually and not taken seriously at work) and I'll let you know.

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Q: Have you had surgery down there?
A: Why, what do you have in mind?

HappyMoni · March 31, 2016, 03:39:04 PM

I would say don't be afraid of me. Don't worry about asking me something to the point of not talking to me for fear of saying the wrong thing. I am a big girl and can handle questions I don't want to answer. After all, if I am not open to talking, how do people start to understand. Most people have no clue what our reality is like. A conversation is the key to bringing more people along for our "ride."
Moni

unclesean · March 31, 2016, 07:45:32 PM

Quote from: HappyMoni on March 31, 2016, 03:39:04 PM
I would say don't be afraid of me. Don't worry about asking me something to the point of not talking to me for fear of saying the wrong thing. I am a big girl and can handle questions I don't want to answer. After all, if I am not open to talking, how do people start to understand. Most people have no clue what our reality is like. A conversation is the key to bringing more people along for our "ride."
Moni

Yes, good one. I'd much rather answer questions than have people guess and then talk out of their arses w/o knowing what they're talking about.

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your own personal Trans 101 FAQ for cis friends on Trans Day of Visibility?