Happy Friday all!

So, Ive come out to my family and extended family, most of my friends, and HR at my job.  I am super happy with most of the reactions, and I've been living more and more femme when not at work. All the places I've gone in the past few weeks either didn't notice, or were respectful if they did. In the case of my eye exam on Monday, I ended up chatting with the girl who helped me pick out my frames for quite a while.. she was super interested about me and genuinely curious. (I finally settled on a pair of Kate Spade Lucyann frames in kiwi, I can't wait for them!!)

So.. the frustration... having to stay full blown male mode at work.  I mean.. I understand why, as an instructor, Ill need to do so until I am full time Andie (under 2 years, but an eternity).. but it's still frustrating.


Anyone else in a similar position?

*hugs
Andie

Heck, at work is where I'm more out.
What kind of instructor?
Can you slowly start adding more feminine touches? Longer hair, women's pants and shirts, grow out your nails, sheer nail polish, etc...

I work in a wood mill, and I wear make up to work every day it makes me feel like the girl in me can go to work, and I even got everyone to start calling me Kulena.
They all know that I live as a girl had should them pictures of me.
By doing this it took away the feeling of running into one of them while out shopping.
It made a free girl who's loving life

That gives you time for HRT to work and for you to zap some hair without worrying about passing. Spend as much time as you can part time so when the time comes you can go full time without anything holding you back.

When the frustration at being part time became greater than my "reasons"/"excuses"/fears around going full time that is when I just decided I wasn't going to put it off a moment longer. I had fully transitioned within the next 10 days, several months ahead of my previous schedule. I'm so glad I did too!

Dana does make a very valid point though, it's more practical to deal with the beard removal while still presenting as male.

I work for the police, i would like to go full time HR knows as well as supervisors. But im still very male plus having to have short hair till i come out os annoying. there is over 160 members my office but hopefully soon

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I work as a freelancer, so nearly all my clients see is a photo and my birth name which is ridiculously girly. I can't change my name as it has to match the documents, so I'm left with my birth name. I just try not to think about it and I've started saying that it's someone else, I'm like a small firm and that is the name of the firm, that's why people are addressing me as such. Yeah, the firm name sucks, but it's still a good step to detach. You could try that as well.

hi Andie73,

good to know you are claiming your life back.i also was anxious of how will i look but i started HRT earlier and waited till got rid of my facial hair this got my body to transform in feminine manner and also i grew hairs although i lived part time while wearing female lingerie. when i got rid of my facial hairs i switched to full time female. also i had discussed with me colleagues with me gender state and they also supported me a lot and made my transition easier.it really helps when someone at work place supports the real you.

hugs.

Thanks for all the kind replies =)  I'm in a pretty good mood, so I may ramble on a bit.

I'm resigned to stay in male mode for as long as I need to for work. I guess maybe it's a little less frustrating, and more annoying.  I am a maintenance instructor in the aviation industry.. pretty strict business casual unless I'm in the hangar, then it's jeans.

  Those are really good points about spending that time shooting myself in the face with a laser.. I just did my first Tria session last night. Weird experience, but completely doable.

  HRT has been pretty amazing so far overall mentally, I am on Estradiol, and Spiro split morning and evening. Yesterday I got hit by a Mac truck loaded with emotions more intense than I have ever felt in my entire life.. Nearly out of the blue, I had to put down what I was doing and close myself in my bedroom. I cried my eyes out for the better part of an hour, while hoping my sternum would stay where it belongs. I have no idea what physical things were going on in there, but it was sort of scary at first. Not really physical pain, just .. I dunno..  Somehow it felt really good to get it out. Even though wife and I are divorcing, it is completely amiable and we will always be good friends. I suspect there is always grieving even in the best of cases.

When I had my last HR meeting, I indicated that I wanted to start growing my hair out, and they didn't seem to have any issue with it There are other male instructors with longer hair, so I suspect Ill be fine so long as I keep it presentable. I'm starting to work out how soon I can get away with starting to color it.. I have naturally fair skin with ample freckles.. red hair runs in my family... and I have three terrific images of Rose Leslie ( two of them in character as Ygritte in Game of Thrones) I showed to my stylist to see if my current boring brownish could be fixed without too much trouble. Apparently it will be quite easy, no bleaching. She seems pretty excited to get going on it when I am ready, and said she has plans for my eyebrows =)   

I suspect it wont be long before someone at work notices that the boob fairy has been at work under my shirt. I'm kind of amused thinking about how that will go. I feel most of my workmates will be indifferent for the most part and maybe curious, but there are a\one or two I'm sort of worried about because they have very traditional values.  *shrugs*   it will all work out eventually.

Thanks for your ears and hugs..  We gotta stick together.

*hugs*
Andie


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