Hey guys.

As some of you know, I am an adult in her young 20's, MTF transexual.  So this is kind of a vent about how long I am going to have to wait getting me down, I have been approved for NHS funding but I am going to have to wait a year and a half or so JUST to see a gender clinic, so getting started will be even longer, when I get started it can take years to finish and get to the SRS stage. 

I know this is just the way it is and I am lucky to have funding etc but this big wait is getting me down. At the moment I am working at fixing other issues in my life, as well as trying to lose weight, become more feminine , go out and socialize etc. It's just disheartening to think how my life could be so different if I was born in the correct body, so much I missed out on due to the dysphoria : /

Even after all these years, I still sometimes think about how my life could have been different but I temper it by remembering the things that have happened in this life that wouldn't have happened had I been born different. At some point you need to stop thinking about the past and decide how you are going to make this life even better because the past can't be changed and forward is the only way to happiness. It will become easer as you accumulate more memories from this life that you wouldn't have had otherwise.

Quote from: Jestwacked on April 05, 2016, 08:08:49 AM
Hey guys.

As some of you know, I am an adult in her young 20's, MTF transexual.  So this is kind of a vent about how long I am going to have to wait getting me down, I have been approved for NHS funding but I am going to have to wait a year and a half or so JUST to see a gender clinic, so getting started will be even longer, when I get started it can take years to finish and get to the SRS stage. 

I know this is just the way it is and I am lucky to have funding etc but this big wait is getting me down. At the moment I am working at fixing other issues in my life, as well as trying to lose weight, become more feminine , go out and socialize etc. It's just disheartening to think how my life could be so different if I was born in the correct body, so much I missed out on due to the dysphoria : /

Just look at it this way. You got approved and now have a journey. We can't change the past but we can make our future better while on our new journey. To lessen my dysphoria I sleep in cami's and my correct genders underwear, I also shave my chest, belly, legs and face(every now an then because I hate shaving). I would say I sit when I pee but I have always done that even if I had to wait for a stall. I changed my deodorant to women's deodorant. I will soon start my hair removal process. Hormones help a lot but we can do so much while we wait. Think of the wait as a big help instead of a burden. I am in the same boat but I spent sometime thinking about it and came to the conclusion that this time would be better spent planning as best as I could to make my transition as less stressful because it will be more stressful down the road for us. Do something to distract yourself mean while also. I picked up the violin so i won't fixate on the slow changes my body is going to go through down the road. Take it from a very impatient person !

It sucks that you have to wait that long. I am really sorry for you. Transgender people have to deal with all kinds of unfair hardships. I wish it weren't true, but it is. When you get down, waiting for something you should already be on, think of all your transgender brothers and sisters, enduring all kinds of things because of who we are.

It helps me to think about that, anyway. It's a tough road, but we're in it together.