I Just dont get It . Why 1 year ? Like if I am going to change My mind when I deeply want a vagina since im 5 year old not even knowing I was A woman at this time . Ive Been followed closely by psychologist for Months And she Just wrote me A 15 page report about My transexuality And that SRS is required for me . I Also met à psychiatrist this week who confirmed It And gave me second letter . I had FFS And A breast augmentation 1.5 month ago ... Like ... Why doesnt they do exception for sure case.. This piss me off... Having to live another 8.5 month with this crap I Hate down here for ABSOLUTELY no reason ... Sad

Yes there is a reason. Living a year as a woman throws a bunch of stuff at you that some may not be able to handle and gives you time to really consider your decision. Money issues gave me two years to think about things and my mind set was much different at the end of those two years than it was at the start. I made the decision for the right reason and not the reason I would have at the start. I hope you are taking full advantage of the time and are living the life you will live after surgery - working and engaging in normal social activities so you to will make the decision for surgery for the right reasons.

I don't think that's the reason. It just social baggage from decades ago.

Having FFS is gong to have far more impact that SRS on how you cope socially, and she's already done that.

It was never about passing, it's about being able to adjust to society. If you can't be comfortable in society as a woman you should very carefully consider your decision to have surgery.

Quote from: Dena on April 06, 2016, 09:28:43 PM
It was never about passing, it's about being able to adjust to society. If you can't be comfortable in society as a woman you should very carefully consider your decision to have surgery.

I think that would apply far more to ffs than srs, and yet that's already done.

Quote from: AnonyMs on April 06, 2016, 09:33:41 PM
I think that would apply far more to ffs than srs, and yet that's already done.

Personally, I think it should apply to both but I don't set the standards. I had my adams apple reduced before going full time, a decision I was pretty sure I wouldn't regret. At the same time I had my nose corrected but I specified I wanted the nose to be able to work for both genders. The results were exactly that and I am still very happy with the results.

I am a little disturbed by how often people get FFS before any public exposure and when they already have a passable face. I tell people the truth about their face but yet they often decide to have FFS when they could get by without it. I could benefit from it but I have decide what I might gain from it wouldn't be worth it as I am comfortable in life and that's what's important.

sadly there's going to be a 6-12 month wait for a surgeon anyway

Oh yes Dena I am living my life so much . Im so happy about my body but im tired of this handicap Ive been hating for decades. Also I was full time before FFS , It wasnt about A passing issue but to be confortable with how I look And to get rid of complexes. I had the money for It And I m waited years before accepting the real me . Now accepted, I want to be this person 100% you know And not living any other minute as the men I was . For me its like wasting more time And I did that for way to long .

Im having sexual Life , I tried with A few mens but ..... How am I supposed to show him I am happy And enjoying It when im an incomplete woman.. I want to get eaten , penetrated And I REALLY dont want My butt involved ... This is so wrong to me. There is no way I can experience the woman sex Life this way... And this is last step I need to explore with transition Lol

I don't know what your circumstances are, but if you're paying yourself and depending on the surgeon you don't need to wait nearly so long.

I am going with dr. Brassard wich is covered by government .. Thats why

I'm guessing your in your twenties so that gives you another 70 years you don't have to wait.

I would also like to have ASAP. from very young, was hiding what is down there, while I did not know how the other gender looks. I also had to wait almost one year to start HRT with forced RLE. I try not to think about it too much right now. I just have a plan which I would like to achieve in several years. If it would be just one me I would perform GRS at the start and then HRT not to take any anti-androgens at all. I already accepted how the system works. Looking forward for the next 2-3 years .

I have been very outspoken about this subject ...its a bunch of bs and not required under wpath, for those in doubt please read it carefullu. I would only question those who are very young as this decision deprives them of having children....unless you have the finance to freeze ypur sperm. I never lived as a female and had my srs and it feel perfectly normal.  Just the USA and some EU countries have this inane rule. If you have all the letters then it's easy to have it done overseas.

"Why"? Because cis gendered people can't believe we'd really want to have "that" operation, it boggles their mind and makes them cross their legs in wincing discomfort. They probably consider the one year wait their "Get Out of GRS Free Card" gift to us.

That said, I'm glad I waited over a year, it made me realise I didn't need to have the op to be a woman or to feel like one. Didn't need it but I still wanted it. Yes, what a pain the unwanted appendage has been to deal with since going full time but the wait, and living my life in the meantime, really helped confirm to me I was a happy woman regardless and that my genitals did not define my gender identity.

I never really felt that I wanted to go to the trouble of SRS until I had been basically full time for several months. Now I don't feel that I need it, which is good as I really can't see how I'll ever afford it, but I most definitely want it. I want it really, really badly!

Waiting a year is absolutely unnecessary to me, just twelve more months of longing.

Quote from: archlord on April 06, 2016, 10:59:13 PM
I am going with dr. Brassard wich is covered by government .. Thats why

Hi Archlord,

I thought Dr. Brassard had a long wait list anyway.  I was under the impression that even if you paid for the operation with Dr. Brassard yourself you couldn't get it done any quicker?  Do you live in Ontario and are going through CAMH for approval?

By the way, I'm also of the opinion that it's no ones business when you have the surgery.  Quite frankly I think people who live in stealth should be able to have GRS.   It's a private matter and your body.

Take care,
Paige

Can you answer this question. Supposed you are one of a number of board members who's surgery failed for some reason and are unable to have normal relations. Can you build a life where you can still be happy or would you regret ever taking this path. I answered the question before surgery and have had a life without sex and without regrets.

Hello, kindred spirit here.  Well you don't really have to wait if you are paying the bill.  But if you desire or need someone else to pay, then unfortunately you must play by their rules.

Your desire is remarkably similar to mine.  I often felt alone and isolated in my views.  Not surprisingly I underwent SRS ASAP, on my own dime and prior to other procedures.  In my opinion SRS should perhaps come first then all the nice stuff later.

Doing so was an incredible experience as my womanhood started a short 10 weeks prior to surgery.  Everything was so new (including peeing).  It was a magical time for this new girl.

Now on SRS wait times:  You can get it done right now if you are ready to go.  You just need to find the right surgeon and bring cash.

So, if you have the means, then by all means do it!  Good luck you will get there Kiddo! 

Thank you,
Anne

EOM

As a happy participant in an Informed Consent HRT program, I prefer it being up to the individual, their circumstances, their desires.  As those informed consent programs become more prevalent, it's possible SRS may follow suit in some areas.

The one year wait is an arbitrary restriction and is specifically a form of gatekeeping to care.  Yes, it is helpful for some to have that in place, and comes from a mentality of "caring" ... but definitely not necessary and certainly not needed for everyone.  In fact, for many, the wait can be tied to saving money, doctor/insurance availability, time to get electro, etc. rather than an arbitrary timeframe.

I don't think it's an issue of gatekeeping. Since, Canada is socialized country on socialized health care everyone has to wait even if you look like supermodel due to the long wait list and of course the surgery is free. It's just how the system works. If a patient couldn't wait they can absolutely seek surgery outside of the country and pay for it.