Quote from: Ms Grace on April 11, 2016, 12:10:07 AM
"Excuse me, are you cis sexual?"

Same thing as for sexual orientation: "Can I ask, are you heterosexual ?"

I'm different about this. If someone asks me a question like that I tell them no I'm just a woman trying to look her best, I'm not trans anything....it seems to calm them down & makes me feel OK, I do not get upset at all. However it does not happen very often.   Good luck the next time. We cannot stop what ppl ask us, only deal with it in a calm manner then go about our business.

Quote from: Lucie

Quote from: Ms Grace
    "Excuse me, are you cis sexual?"

Same thing as for sexual orientation: "Can I ask, are you heterosexual ?"

I've just realized is that many, perhaps most, cis people don't realize that they even have a gender identity. The other day I was doing a minor edit of a piece someone had written on discrimination, where they had, not knowing any better, used "trangenderism" to refer to the basis of the discrimination, where they should have said "gender identity," in the same way we speak of "race" or "religion" as general attributes which may not be used as the basis for discrimination.

Being cis is so much the default that they're not even aware of it as part of their identity.

To some extent you can understand why, they are by far in the majority. Many trans people haven't even self identified enough to be out about it which "appears" to swell the number of the cis population in the process. When you feel to be in the majority by a significant percentage it is easy to smugly presume you are "normal", often without even realising it.

I'd like to apologize for my angry rant on here. I had a friend turn on me after a year of support and it really messed my day up. A few days away from the forums seems to have calmed my nerves.