Hello everyone.  I decided to go ahead and create an account to join the group...and stop lurking around as a guest. 

A little bit about me.  I'm 40 years old, married, and have two daughters.  I've always felt uncomfortable in my skin, but never reached out for help.  A couple of summers ago I discovered I was born intersex and it was like a light went off in my head.  All those years of feeling like a girl, being attracted to guys suddenly made sense.

I finally reached out to a therapist this year and admitted to her that i'm having gender dysphoria.  She has helped me  become more comfortable with myself and says that i'm on track for HRT soon, but wants me to become comfortable expressing femininity in my daily life before I go on HRT.

I do come from a very religious family and coming out would surely end my marriage as well as sever relationships with family members.  So, I have some huge hurdles to overcome.  I am hoping that I can make friends here and have allies I can lean on during the upcoming hard times.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Welcome to Susan's Place. We have intersex members and over the last year I have learned a fair about about it but some of our members might step in latter. You have some difficulties to face with your family and I hope they work out. Should you need it we have some resources in our WIKI and there is a SO section should your wife feel she needs it. Let me know if there is anything I can help you with.

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Hi Courtney 

Welcome to Susan's    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

Quote from: CourtneyMarissa on April 26, 2016, 10:18:41 PM
Hello everyone.  I decided to go ahead and create an account to join the group...and stop lurking around as a guest. 

A little bit about me.  I'm 40 years old, married, and have two daughters.  I've always felt uncomfortable in my skin, but never reached out for help.  A couple of summers ago I discovered I was born intersex and it was like a light went off in my head.  All those years of feeling like a girl, being attracted to guys suddenly made sense.

I finally reached out to a therapist this year and admitted to her that i'm having gender dysphoria.  She has helped me  become more comfortable with myself and says that i'm on track for HRT soon, but wants me to become comfortable expressing femininity in my daily life before I go on HRT.

I do come from a very religious family and coming out would surely end my marriage as well as sever relationships with family members.  So, I have some huge hurdles to overcome.  I am hoping that I can make friends here and have allies I can lean on during the upcoming hard times.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Welcome. )) Good luck getting the letter. Expressing femininity in your everyday life, btw, is one of the first steps, just like admitting to some receptive individuals on a support site that you intend to transition. Congrats on both; you're well on your way.

Claire

Welcome Courtney !! you find plenty of allies here, it will still be very rough, Im in awe of you taking this step.

(((hugs)))

Hello and welcome!

I can only speak from my experience of coming out to religious family. I tried to approach the topic first like this- I`m still the same person, it`s just what`s on the inside that will be visible now. I`m still your loving and caring father and husband. Nothing changed there.

I received mixed response, but one thing I noticed is that my family needed to be assured first that there is something they can base a sense of continuity upon- saying that you want to be a completely different person is not a good idea at first.

Good luck with your journey!

Hello and welcome 


Here are a few resources that could help you with self acceptance:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,208438.msg1847638.html#msg1847638


*hugs*

A hearty welcome to Susan's, Courtney.

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