Sooooo, last weekish I posted a topic on here about coming out to my new landlady and housemates, and I just wanted to thank everybody for all the advice and, well, guts by proxy they gave me to just do it.

Her reaction was pretty much: "Yes, and?"

Which was not at all what I was expecting ("homeless" would be a good one, actually) , but after posting to this and other forums and having a long talk with my best friend about it, I decided that, if I was going to make the decision to be true to myself, that meant being true to others as well, and accepting whatever consequences came about as a result. (Impressive run-on sentence, that... ;-)

I still have to tell the new house-mates, but as my land-lady said, if they cannot accept it, it's their problem, not mine. (I started to bring up the point that it would actually end up being HER problem on account of people moving out and leaving empty rooms, but she just shrugged that off - go figure :-D ) So as soon as I can manage to corner them for more than 2 minutes, I think it's only fair to let them know as well... just need to figure out the best approach on that.

Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks so much to everybody who responded. It felt great to just put my SELF out there instead of hiding like I have done for the past 25-odd years.

Simone

For the most part, if you pay your rent on time, don't trash the property and don't have the cops called over all that often, few really care.

That most landlords don't care, they don't have to live with you and your money spends all the same.  So as long as the check is on time and you're not a problem child, they don't care.

Thank goodness for the free and fair lust for money. And congratulations on getting the courage together. Courage is not my strong point, gotta say I admire anyone that has it.

In the end, everyone's cash spends the same.

Congrats. I'm glad I went well with your landlord.

--natalie

UPDATE: She is actually a live-in landlord, so it's been interesting, but it does seem like things will work out between the two of us. I've yet to tell anybody else in the house - since I NEVER see them, but eventually get around to that too.

Anyway, thanks all! It was kinda asking advice on here and some other forums that got me as far as it did - better than a shrink anyday!