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Very scared, need advice.

Started by tsroxy, April 26, 2016, 06:20:43 PM

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Laura_7

Quote from: tsroxy on May 06, 2016, 11:57:47 AM
No, I've never been to any hospital in my life, ever.. and they responded to my email, but they sent their response to the wrong person, I don't know how they could mess that up. :/

So some random guy I don't know, knows everything about me now, he was nice enough to forward the email to me.. but I've been so embarrassed about this I still haven't replied.

This mail I used is also a "fake" email, used when I sign up somewhere, to avoid spam on my main one.. somehow it has all my details to it, so they got my full name even though I tried to stay anonymous.

In your email program you can go to an option where it says "show all headers" or similar.
if you open your sent mails they show all info that really went out with your mail. Its possible your name was included somewhere in there.

Well if they sent it to the wrong person of course it was their fault. But often personnel is understaffed and not used to using computers. So I would simply write it off .

As said above, imo you might either reply politely and ask about the things that happened, and ask for it to be kept confidential from now on, or you might use another mail and start anew.


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Fresas con Nata

Quote from: tsroxy on May 06, 2016, 11:57:47 AM
This mail I used is also a "fake" email, used when I sign up somewhere, to avoid spam on my main one.. somehow it has all my details to it, so they got my full name even though I tried to stay anonymous.

Staying anonymous is hard. Anonymous as in, doing drugs online, or child porn or something like that. Of course, we don't need to be like that so it's somewhat less difficult. But there's still lots of things that escape the average joe.

I can offer advice on that. Feel free to PM me!
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JoanneB

I have 2 FB accounts, one male the other female. Both use separate yahoo emails. Yet somehow through that mutual marketing loop my female FB started asking if want to be friends with people from the male personnas Yahoo email! WTF???

Thank God there is almost no way anyone would recognize my head shot in female mode. I guess there is one advantage to being trans and balding rapidly since 14 y/o
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tsroxy

I liked to stay anonymous because I still don't know if undertaking action is the right thing for me to do yet.. but I want the option to be there, so I asked them certain things like waiting time, the procedure and stuff..

I've never felt like a male but at the same time it's the only thing I know, a lot of people feel satisfied jumping into a dress or wearing a wig.. to me it'd make it would make things worse, because I would realise even more I'm stuck in a wrong body. I don't know if I'm strong enough to go thought a long transition.. or if I even have a chance of ever passing. Seeing changes people made on here makes me hopeful though, you're all gorgeous.
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Emileeeee

At some point, passing no longer seems as important as being happy with yourself. We all get terrified at the thought of transition, but hopefully we all get over it too. It took me 40 years to find the courage and when I did it, I said the same thing everybody before me said, "Why didn't I do this before?"
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Rebecca

I think I get the dress and wig thing as for me even if it looked perfect it would make me feel fake inside. Do genuinely love how great everyone else looks though particularly Tasha_ with the red wig on.

I need to take the slower path until I can "see myself" in the mirror wearing just my underwear or (someday - after surgery) naked to feel 100% comfortable in this/my body.
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Dena

Quote from: JoanneB on May 07, 2016, 10:16:12 AM
I have 2 FB accounts, one male the other female. Both use separate yahoo emails. Yet somehow through that mutual marketing loop my female FB started asking if want to be friends with people from the male personnas Yahoo email! WTF???

Thank God there is almost no way anyone would recognize my head shot in female mode. I guess there is one advantage to being trans and balding rapidly since 14 y/o
Cookies and face book is really bad about them. I make regular orders from Grainger's for work on my laptop and I get adds attempting to sell me large fuses and industrial hand cleaner on some of the news and weather sites I visit. It's better that some of the adds I get on the home system that never visits Grainger's.
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JoanneB

Quote from: Dena on May 09, 2016, 09:36:45 PM
Cookies and face book is really bad about them. I make regular orders from Grainger's for work on my laptop and I get adds attempting to sell me large fuses and industrial hand cleaner on some of the news and weather sites I visit. It's better that some of the adds I get on the home system that never visits Grainger's.
Yeah, must be a thousand advert sites love Graingers. "Got it? Get it" And amazingly Apache Radio. For MONTHS they are both in in the add-space for whatevers.

What really got me were the very specific, only appearing on either Skype (rarely if ever used at home) or Yahoo (male) email account contacts on my fem nom-da-plume's account.

I thought I was good at covering my tracks
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Tristyn

Quote from: KyleEdric on April 26, 2016, 06:57:36 PM

What do you feel inside? Is it genuine? If it is, then no one is going to take that from you.

Good luck to you.

I know that's right. This would make an awesome signature. These are very powerful words...



@ Roxy:
I agree with Kyle. You'll find a lot of great resources and help here. This is a very wonderful place. If it were not for Susan's, I hate to think of where I might have ended up. I would have a life that is not mine. If you want something badly enough, you'll find ways to get it. Don't focus so much on 'acting like a woman.' Just be You and see where that gets you. To tell you the truth, I feel more like a real individual that way then to try and act like something according to standards and stereotypes. Hang in there. You'll find your way. ;)

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