Thanks Asche; I haven't thought of that perspective before. I grew up with the idea that it's not someone else's fault; it's only yours; which was constantly reinforced. So much so I thought WTH is wrong with me; why aren't I 'normal'. And yes sometimes you have to stop blaming others for some mistakes; but largely I wouldn't be this confused by everything if people didn't give me mixed messages or saying you're not allowed to wear that and not given a reason why.

People need to stop and think before they criticise why someone may dress the way they do or act a certain way. I'll admit like many I judge someone first; then realise those aren't my thoughts; but someone elses misconceptions drilled into me. I think what annoys me most is when a parent doesn't like their son to play with dolls; but they've never stopped to think what are they afraid off. It's not their fear but someone else's which were drilled into them.

When you mentioned the regular it seems they're implying that transgender is a gender unto itself. I don't wear mens t shirts to say to the world hey I'm trans; I just like wearing mens t shirts .

I can definitely identify with feeling warped. I have the opposite problem of feeling forced to be more masculine because I am on T and no one would understand if I said I don't feel 100% male. And because I'll look like a man I'll have to conform with other men in society. Getting a job makes me feel uncomfortable because of this problem.