(Mods feel free to move it if this topic doesn't fit. I am a little confused on where it should go)

Here is a little backstory first. My partner moved back to our hometown almost over a year ago. So I knew her previously and we went into a full relationship when she returned. I told her about me being Transgender and she was totally accepting of it. Problem is, we are struggling with her parents, her mother to be more exact.

We told her mother that I was trans and that I went by a masculine name. Apparently, she only thinks you are trans if you "have the OP." I don't quite know how to tell her that she is wrong. Not only that, she keeps dead-naming me and getting mean with my partner when she refers to me correctly. I feel really bad because my partner is being put into drama for doing the right thing.

Do you lovely guys/gals have any advice? I really need help before something gets out of hand! 

Thanks for reading this!

"Requiring us to cut our bodies in order to be ourselves is barbaric. It's also unfair to people who aren't well enough for surgery or don't have enough money."

Ask her how she would feel if someone forced her to act like a man unless she underwent some medical procedure that she didn't want to have.

Don't know if it will help, but it's what I would say.

You may tell her its a recognized medical condition and it makes people dysphoric if they are referred to with the wrong pronouns.

Here is a brochure from a national health service which might be shown:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,208438.msg1847638.html#msg1847638

It may be compared to epilepsy where people also presumed any kind of motives.
Its biological and there are medication.
Gender dysphoria is also a recognized condition and the recognized solution is transition.
Not all people want to transition including all surgeries, there is a transgender spectrum depending on severity.


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