I too have a loving wife.
I fully came out to her several years ago and she was OK with my trans journey as long as I was not talking about surgery or living full time as Donna. She said she married a man (who was in his early twenties when we married) and expected me to remain a man. This discussion came after 35+ years of marriage. She had always from day one held and squeezed my chest as if I had boobs during our love making. She still does. I mean, she fondles my flesh around my nipples as if she actually knows that not only do I get a thrill out of it, she does as well.
She was fine at first with me wearing a bra in bed and she would still hold my boobs through my bra. But, I think, the closer she became to fully accepting being with a transitioning husband to a woman spouse, the more she put on the brakes.
She has asked me to put my women's things into either permanent storage away from her knowledge, or to discard them. I do believe she had been in discussion with business or professional friends about my impending transition and she did not like the outcome. Or, I should say I did not like the outcome. Acceptance somewhat ended, but she still plays with my boobies during intimate moments, and she suggests that when I now go off on motorcycle tours that she is comfortable with my departure attire. I depart wearing a woman's motorcycle jacket. She knows. She just wants me to keep Donna to myself.
Our marriage is great. I expect that we will last forever.
If I should pass away before she does, I expect she will not be surprised when she finds my "other wardrobe".
If she should pass away before I do, I will go full time as a woman immediately, and I do believe she would expect it.
This is our new level of acceptance as we live in our 60's.
We love each other, and we know each other.
She is just a little old fashioned.
Her ancestors passed away in their 70's.
All of my ancestors made it to their late 90's and into their 100's.
I know that she knows that I will be full time female eventually.
