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Are you supported in transition or alone.

Started by stephaniec, May 24, 2016, 10:34:57 PM

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do you have at least minimal suppoort or are alone in transition.

totally alone
14 (21.9%)
some basic support
20 (31.3%)
alot of support
28 (43.8%)
other
2 (3.1%)

Total Members Voted: 63

stephaniec

The only support I had for 25 months of transition was my therapist than my niece and now also my sister. I'm doing good.
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SonadoraXVX

Sort of alone, my girlfriend accepts my transition, but truly, I feel alone in this, which to this point I'm ok with this, to a point. I'm also in grad school which puts my thoughts of transition way further back in my mind,and I may have a promotion at work and in a new dept, which further puts it in deeper in my mind. I know that when I finish school and am settle in my possible new job/position, then these feelings may re emerge stronger, but I'll deal with it when it comes up.

My 2 cents.
To know thyself is to be blessed, but to know others is to prevent supreme headaches
Sun Tzu said it best, "To know thyself is half the battle won, but to know yourself and the enemy, is to win 100% of the battles".



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Ms Grace

I feel I had a lot of support during the lead up to going full time and for several months past that point. For me, support means being able to talk about things that may be bothering me and general acceptance. And while I don't have acceptance from all corners in my family I have it have from the one person who matters most to me, my mother. But I should say that I also see this site as a massive form of support.
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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Rafaela

So far 100% alone, but only offline. My support team is here, comprised of all the little 1s and 0s flying through the interwebs from members of sites like this. Wouldn't have even started without y'all  :-*
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Nicole

I was supported by my mum and family

I've got no idea how you do it without support
Yes! I'm single
And you'll have to be pretty f'ing amazing to change that
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Sarah leah

Sadly none in terms of being able to talk to people outside of speaking my therapist once or twice. I think the biggest struggle is the refusal of government in Australia to help people who need to transition instead stating it is all cosmetic or  non-necessary.

I am a mental health social worker and even my own body of professional's refuse to do anything, even when I stood up and stated the AASW needs to bring medicare and the government in line by creating public debate. Their reply "thank you for stating this, now moving alone. Violence against women in Australia."

-sorry got of topic :(


A straight line may be the shortest distance between two points, but it is by no means the most interesting
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Nicole

Quote from: Sarah leah on May 25, 2016, 07:24:08 AM
Sadly none in terms of being able to talk to people outside of speaking my therapist once or twice. I think the biggest struggle is the refusal of government in Australia to help people who need to transition instead stating it is all cosmetic or  non necessary.

I am a social worker and even my own body of professional are to scared to do anything when I stood up and stated the AASW needs to bring medicare and the government in line by creating public debate.

-sorry got of topic :(

We are a backwards country at times
Yes! I'm single
And you'll have to be pretty f'ing amazing to change that
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Sarah leah



A straight line may be the shortest distance between two points, but it is by no means the most interesting
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stephaniec

sorry to hear this . I'm in the US and I'm lucky to be close to a LGBT health center. My therapist who's not with the health center , but with a hospital acknowledges the lack of understanding in the general medical community on transgender issues to the point of almost being non existent .
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herekitten

I had a lot of support growing up from immediate family, cousins, etc. I did not have many friends growing up because of my parent's wanting to protect me, but the few I had were supporting.  As a result, I pay it back by always being there and helping others when I can, however I can.
It is the lives we encounter that make life worth living. - Guy De Maupassant
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islandgirl

I feel that I have a lot of support from my partner and friends. My brothers and sisters, not so much. When I transitioned full time in my winter community, my partner and I had lots of support. The women on my tennis team have been great! As for family, I guess time is what is needed. I am not loosing sleep over it! I too have relied on the support of everyone who has contributed here on this site. Whenever I need information or am down, I know that I can come here.
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melissagirl

I've been transitioning for a while now. When I first started, I didn't have a lot of support, but I also didn't have much opposition. Now I have a lot of support. My 3 biggest supporters are my fiancée, best friend, and my son. I really do feel blessed for that.


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Emileeeee

I have support where it counts, but nothing overwhelming.
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Jessie Ann

I am one very lucky lady.  I have received support from just about everyone in my life.  With only a couple of exceptions my who family has been supportive and helpful.  My children have been fantastic and very loving towards me.  My evil step-mother and an uncle are the only ones giving me any problem.  At work I have had a pretty seamless transition.  I have known a lot of the people I work with for over 25 years.  They slip up every now and then on a pronoun but they all have been very respectful and happy for me.  There were no issues with the restrooms nor were there any issues about other things.  It was like one day he left and the next day she came in.  I am in contact with many of my high school and college classmates and they are almost all offering support. 

I really hope that my experience will become the norm for all people who go through transition.  It is not complicated and it is not something to be feared.  If people would just respect us as a fellow human being the world would be a much better place. 

At times I hate to post anything about how well things are going for me because I know so many of my brothers and sisters here are going through struggles. I am making it my mission in life to try to make the world a more open and understanding place when it comes to transgender people.  After all we didn't choose to be this way, we were born this way.  Education and legal protections are what is needed for our community.

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clawdeenwolf

I'm alone. And so when I have FFS I have to do it all alone and it scares me!
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Shadow Wolf

I'll soon be finding out. I was worried how my parents would handle it (I had to move back in a couple years ago), but recently I heard my mom discussing something with my nephew about MtF triplets he goes to school with (or, went, as he recently graduated), and my mom said she thought it was great they have supportive parents. And what my sister has put us through and done since she has moved back in, I just don't think my parents are going to be hostile. I probably won't have my dad's support, but my mom's maybe. My siblings I don't count on it. My nieces and nephews I think some will and some won't.
I do worry though about how one of my friends will take it, because she and her family are pretty much my only friends.
But, on the other hand, I am going back to school so I'll probably find at least some support there.
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cindianna_jones

I was pretty much on my own for the toughest part of my life. I broke. I finally got back on track and moved from Utah. Once I had relocated in California, I made some friends who were going through transition. That was a life saver for me. I'll always be grateful for them.
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Karlie Ann

I'm very much alone except for Susans and my therapist.
Your current situation is not your final destination.
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Lili

Quote from: clawdeenwolf on May 25, 2016, 07:51:23 PM
I'm alone. And so when I have FFS I have to do it all alone and it scares me!

I am alone and will never tell my parent. She is a walking radio and can never keep secrets.
I am going for my jaw surgery soon to fix my underbite which she slightly disapproves, so i can already imagine the outcome if i come out to her, so i got a bank loan instead of borrowing from her.
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stephaniec

I was very much alone the past 3 years for the start of my transition ,but I have just reunited with a sister and her children that I thought I would never see again after 20 years. Miracles do happen.
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