As you may remember from my previous post I have a family reunion coming up  (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,209379.msg1855692.html#msg1855692)
and I'm starting to have this stupid worry that they won't notice any changes at all; which would have made my coming out pointless. I know this is ridiculous because my face has definitely changed as well as my voice. But I still don't feel I look masculine enough. I'll be nearly 9 months on T by the time of the reunion so I know they most likely will notice; but I still can't shake it. It doesn't help that i put a new pic up on the 'do I pass' board and nobody has replied yet (I know people are busy and stuff; just my stupid mind fixating on something silly again). I'm not close to my family at all so I'm kind of also nervous about coming up with things to talk about. Plus it turns out my dad may not be going because he'll have had his 2nd hair transplant near the date. At least with him going I won't be the only awkward/different looking one there.

I know this must sound really stupid. Just July seems to be looming so much closer now :/

We often change more than we realise, we see ourselves every day so it can be hard to know. Maybe post your pic here too if you want specific feedback in the lead up to your reunion.

I just had a similar experience. That side of my family is all really conservative, church-going people, and I haven't seen any of them in like 15 years. I quit going to the family gatherings a long time ago for various reasons, and missed all of their weddings and stuff.

I spent a lot of time worrying about how things were going to go, and talking myself into being afraid, but when I got there they each told me several times how happy they were to see me and that they'd missed me, and I got a whole bunch of hugs, which I love. That was all really nice, but now that I've reconnected if they reject me due to the trans thing it's going to be pretty devastating. I'm not out to any of them, and except for one friend of the family who says he didn't recognize me everybody else was like oh I recognized you immediately! So it's nice in that the first meeting wasn't tainted by a bunch of "omg you're trans" drama that would've been hard to deal with, but also reaffirming my own feeling that I haven't really changed at all.

Oh well, we can't live our lives in fear or we won't do much living. I hope things go well for you, and I'm sure I speak for everyone here when I say we've got your back no matter what happens.

So thought I'd update- the family reunion went fine. They all corrected themselves when they got my name wrong. Bit awkward but it wasn't worth worrying about