I know my dad would try his hardest to convince the therapist that I'm not transgender because even though he's okay with other transgender people, he does not want me to be transgender.

And I'm worried that he's gonna get so stressed out about the subject if the therapist speaks to him and he's gonna start over thinking everything about me and blow it up so it seems like I'm clinically insane or something. (He told me I had OCD because I rebuilt something in Minecraft a couple times over?? And because my mom and female-babysitter left, I only think I'm transgender because I'm sexist to women??? Umm, I'm definitely not sexist)

If the therapist wishes to see your parents, the therapist will already be very aware of the attitude that you parents might have. Your therapist will not form an opinion about your ->-bleeped-<- off your parents view. Instead what the therapist is interested in is the difficulty you will face and the therapist will attempt to shape your parents view so they will provide you with more support.

As I was already an adult when I was in therapy, my mother only saw my first therapist. It was explained to her that there wasn't anything wrong with me other than wanting to be a girl so more or less my mother may have understood better but it didn't really make any difference in my overall treatment.

At 17, I was forced to get therapy for other problems. I didn't want to be there, and didn't want to talk about anything (let alone gender). At the end of the first session, the therapist called my mother in and asked me to sign a paper for her to talk to my mother. She asked me to sign the paper while my mother was in the room. My mother is controlling and verbally crap, so I signed it because I didn't want an argument. I lied to that therapist from then on just to get out of therapy, but later learned that the therapist shouldn't have done that.

Depending on your age and where you live (I'm in the US), some places won't allow a parent to know what happens during therapy without your consent. I would look up the rules for your country or state if you aren't sure.
If you are already in therapy and are alright with your therapist talking to your dad, then great. Similar to what Dena said, a good therapist will keep what your dad says as just a perspective from your dad, not any way with how you are. Worst case, if your therapist isn't acting how they should, you can always find a new therapist. Good luck.

My therapist never once disclosed information about my gender identity to my parents without my express permission. Even when I was a minor he didn't do so, but it does depend on location and your age. ^^

Now that I'm an adult legally, my parents can't get any information about my medical practices without my permission first. Just today when the pharmacy called my dad when my testosterone script was ready, he promptly called me and asked what script I had recieved. If he wasn't an accepting parent, I wouldn't have been obligated to tell him. Either way, I really didn't have to tell him. I'm just lucky I have a semi-chill father.

Anyways, speak with your therapist if this is your concern. Make it clear to them that you'd rather your father not come in, because he is not understanding. Express your feelings, that's what a therapist is for.

Quote from: sigsi on June 01, 2016, 06:23:57 PM
At 17, I was forced to get therapy for other problems. I didn't want to be there, and didn't want to talk about anything (let alone gender). At the end of the first session, the therapist called my mother in and asked me to sign a paper for her to talk to my mother. She asked me to sign the paper while my mother was in the room. My mother is controlling and verbally crap, so I signed it because I didn't want an argument. I lied to that therapist from then on just to get out of therapy, but later learned that the therapist shouldn't have done that.

Depending on your age and where you live (I'm in the US), some places won't allow a parent to know what happens during therapy without your consent. I would look up the rules for your country or state if you aren't sure.
If you are already in therapy and are alright with your therapist talking to your dad, then great. Similar to what Dena said, a good therapist will keep what your dad says as just a perspective from your dad, not any way with how you are. Worst case, if your therapist isn't acting how they should, you can always find a new therapist. Good luck.

I can relate to this. I had a longtime pediatrician when I was a minor (who was very old and old school and no help on the trans thing, as you might imagine) and a mother who was extremely controlling. When I hit puberty the ped explained to my mom that there would be some discussions that would have to be confidential, ie, she would not disclose everything we said to Mama. This ground my mother's gears like nothing you would believe and terrified me. Of course I could not be frank with the pediatrician after that so I never told her I didn't want breasts or I was very uncomfortable with gynaecological exams or anything like that.

Quote from: tyler_c on June 01, 2016, 05:29:23 PM
I know my dad would try his hardest to convince the therapist that I'm not transgender because even though he's okay with other transgender people, he does not want me to be transgender.

I had a similar situation. I was referred to counseling by my high school because I broke down in a class about family abuse. After some time in therapy (with a therapist who was big on reconciling parents and children, that failed btw) mom and therapist met. My mother isn't very socially skilled but she managed to smooth talk the therapist to the point that the therapist took her side despite what I had confided in her about what my mother did and was doing. It was a major breakdown in trust and caused me to distrust therapists for years even when I badly needed their services as when I was depressed and suicidal. Looking back I guess my therapist was a bit of a Pollyanna, smart but not that bright if you know what I mean. At one point I told her that I felt pent up and that I would lose my continence (sexually) in college. In retrospect, it had to be the trans feelings trying to express themselves because I didn't have words for what was going on. Even at the time, I realized she had failed to understand me because she just talked anodyne talk about appropriate sexual boundaries and behavior. Even after I came out as gay, I knew that conversation hadn't been about the gay thing. Now I know it was about being trans. I was playing the assigned role but it was hurting me and the dysphoria made me feel like I was going to explode. I knew the "me" I was being wasn't the real me and I was kind of dissociated from the real me and thus afraid to find out who the real me was. I just knew I couldn't keep up the pretense forever. I knew it was vaguely tied to sex because my budding sexuality was so different from my peers.

It is important to find a therapist you trust.  You should feel like the therapist is "on your side" as you are technically the client.  If you don't feel like you can trust them then I would just keep looking.  As someone who was misdiagnosed with mental illness and spent over ten years in psychotherapy, I have a lot of experience with dealing with psychologists, psychiatrists, and therapists.  Much of whether or not the therapy succeeds depends on your personalities meshing.  That is why sometimes one person thinks a therapist is terrible while another thinks they are great.  But when it comes to the parent issue, I would share exactly what you have just told us with your therapist.  They should understand and sympathize with your feelings and work with you on feeling more confident that you will not be judged based on someone else's words.  If they do not respond in a way that makes you feel comfortable then I would seek a new therapists because that one may not be right for you.  However, I do believe that most therapists will 100% understand your concerns because they are logical and not uncommon for people in therapy.  But don't be afraid to share your fears.  The point of therapy is having someone you can confide in.