Father's Day when you have kids

CrysC · June 17, 2016, 12:45:20 PM

How do you feel about Father's Day? I have two kids and when I first told them about things they wanted to make sure they could celebrate me on Father's Day. I agreed with joy because I was so happy my kids still wanted to be around me let alone celebrate me in some manner.

But now it's odd for me. I didn't get anything with Mother's Day and Father's Day feels hollow. I'm not a father after all which is a name for male parent. Saying that I am a mother is more appropriate but my wife resents encroachment on all things "Mom".

So I am rolling with things and happy my kids love me. Still, how do you girls with kids handle it?

RobynD · June 17, 2016, 01:02:06 PM

I'm still dad to my kids regardless of my gender. One daughter feminizes it on her cards as "Daddie" I'm very fine with that. I would love to be celebrated on mother's day but they choose to keep things as it was.

I can guarantee i will not get any ties

Lately its been chocolate and flowers

Megan. · June 17, 2016, 01:05:31 PM

I'm struggling this year, seeing the cards in the shops spikes my GD, and my Ex reminded me this may be the last year that my kids know me as their dad.

Atom · June 17, 2016, 01:36:48 PM

I just skip it. All the validation I need from my 3 year old is a smile in the morning, and a good night in the evening. Job done. When she's old enough I'll have that awkward talk when she brings the subject of "where's Daddy?" up

I class myself as a parent - I would never, ever trend into the "Mum" area. You do not have the money to convince me otherwise.

Jacqueline · June 17, 2016, 02:23:05 PM

Still Dad to them. Even the one I am out to. The others will get this in another year or so but I suspect I will always be Dad.

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Atom · June 17, 2016, 02:41:48 PM

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chrissydr · June 17, 2016, 05:17:53 PM

It has been rather difficult this year as I have seperated from my ex. She decided to sort stuff out from my 3 and 6 year old daughters, but then when she went to give it to me. She asked if I deserved anything, because was I still considered their Daddy.

My girls know a bit, my youngest still is figuring it out, my oldest has no real clue. But they have and always be my little girlies and as long as they love me, I don't care anymore about it.

Rachel · June 17, 2016, 05:54:18 PM

My daughter is down the shore. I suspect I will get a text.

islandgirl · June 17, 2016, 06:11:29 PM

I find myself in exactly the same position, CrysC. At first I to was good with it because our son totally excepted me. I am on the way home, just finished a 10 hr drive for the day, and I had plenty of time to think as I drove through the mountains. I find myself wishing that I too could have celebrated Mother's Day. A lot of things around gender references have come to mind, such as how my brothers and sisters think of me. I guess it this case I may not find out for a long time. I am sure that my son will give me a call on Father's Day, and I will graciously accept.

HappyMoni · June 17, 2016, 08:56:30 PM

I let my grown sons decide what to do. What they decided on was very cool, especially since it was a surprise. After Mother's day they decided we would do "Moni's" Day. It wasn't Mother's or Father's Day. It just seemed perfect to do something completely different just like me being completely different from what they have known. I expect we will ignore Father's Day from now on. That is fine with me.
Moni

CrysC · June 18, 2016, 12:32:13 AM

There is comfort in knowing that many of you are in the same boat.

I like the Moni's day idea. I'm trying to get my kids to call me something else other than Dad but I am having minimal success with that.

One day at a time and one year at a time.

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