This guy has taken me by surprise the past couple days, yesterday he started telling me all his personal problems. And he does physical contact with me (his boots hitting my leg as he sits on my desk), and he gets into my comfort zone (roughly 7-10 inches from my face as he speaks), and when he shook my hand it almost felt he rubbed on it. Could be just his personality, but when hes in the room he now just talks to me. I am not complaining because Im desperate for a boyfriend given the chance. He is attractive... Not perfect but I like his style.

Yet I dont see the look of attraction just yet "pupils widen". And I brought up the conversation of women and he kind of just made it seem like women are trouble/money problems.

Today he suggest to play a board game with me, so he obviously wants to spend more time with me.

Sounds like you have a friend.

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You know if someone is into you.

Personally, I've never found people who want to go to bed with you to be up for playing board games first, but that might just be me. Other people may well have locked eyes with their dream lover over the chess set.

Loathe as I am to quote my least favourite SATC character, Miranda "he's just not that into you". You know if that's relevant, I don't.

Either ask him for a drink, or leave it out. Dwelling on it with a bunch of strangers who don't know what either of you look like and haven't the slightest notion of the particular chemistry going on - you're not going to get a reliable answer.

Ask him.

Quote from: alex82 on June 16, 2016, 03:14:55 PM
You know if someone is into you.

Personally, I've never found people who want to go to bed with you to be up for playing board games first, but that might just be me. Other people may well have locked eyes with their dream lover over the chess set.

Loathe as I am to quote my least favourite SATC character, Miranda "he's just not that into you". You know if that's relevant, I don't.

Either ask him for a drink, or leave it out. Dwelling on it with a bunch of strangers who don't know what either of you look like and haven't the slightest notion of the particular chemistry going on - you're not going to get a reliable answer.

Ask him.

Strangers? I know a good number of people here. . more than real life friends.


But yes... I feel a slight chemistry but its not a strong chemistry.

Im not into board games either....

Sounds more like he sees u as a friend. Ur over thinking it. If he wants to be with U he will surely make it known. Just speaking from personal experiences. He knows ur trans? Cause a coworker at my job is def into me n told me if I had a vag he would tear my A up..... So my point is if someone is into U they will make it known.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on June 16, 2016, 07:20:24 PM
Sounds more like he sees u as a friend. Ur over thinking it. If he wants to be with U he will surely make it known. Just speaking from personal experiences. He knows ur trans? Cause a coworker at my job is def into me n told me if I had a vag he would tear my A up..... So my point is if someone is into U they will make it known.

Agreed.

As someone who is extremely shy in situations of attraction and more often than not will not pick up on it at first you might need to

A) leave it as it is OR B) be direct in a subtle manner such as sitting close to him, aligning your body to face his and lightly touching him to see if he moves away or not.

In the end however it is hard to say as most guys are just in your face if they like you in that way and only a few are shy like myself and will be unable to say it. However, it would be very obvious if he does as he will be giving you those quick glances etc.

To be honest here he could be into you. When I was a guy I was to shy to ask anyone out. I didn't feel comfortable with who I am like I do now. Everyone knows I'm Pan at work so they know I'm not attracted to sex or gender. I'd say don't be desperate for love because you'll never know what will happen. If you stress on that it won't be good for you in the long run. Trust me on this one here I actually use to be married. Lol just give it time if you don't like board games ask to do something you'd be interested in. If he really likes or is genuinely interested in you then he would not afraid for compromise.

He could be! Go and have fun playing a game, and let whatever happens, happen. If you're up to it. I don't know a lot of guys who want to play game, so he sounds like good relationship material to me. If nothing else, you've found a good friend as he seems like a nice guy!

He cancel the game and instead invited me to watch a movie with him and his friend. He put his hands on my shoulders to invite me and he then hug me (little agreesively when I left the gathering). I told him "Im good" when he was hugging me like in "no need for the hug".

I still cant read him, since I think its part of his personality.

I want a boyfriend and I dont want my heart to be played... And I dont want this to be all in my head. I think there is attraction but I dont know....

Ill see what happens tomorrow. He invited me to play the board game again but the show became more important.

Or maybe hes just lonely.... I felt odd at the movie though because they both kept talking to each other and I was like a third wheel invite (it was really nerdy conversation). And they kind of ignore me when I spoke. But it was all cool.

Quote from: Wild Flower on June 21, 2016, 04:39:41 PM
I felt odd at the movie though because they both kept talking to each other and I was like a third wheel invite (it was really nerdy conversation).

What were you called when he introduced you to his friends?
Where did he sit in relation to you?
How was he acting towards you?

Being ignored by guys during a group conversation is typical.

Oh... Daannngg.... I'm a bit of a nerd too LOL... I probably would have joined in also. Hrm that really does suck though. :/

To be honest I'd hate to say this, but the dude might just be Gay.

Quote from: Raye on June 23, 2016, 02:23:10 AM
Oh... Daannngg.... I'm a bit of a nerd too LOL... I probably would have joined in also. Hrm that really does suck though. :/

To be honest I'd hate to say this, but the dude might just be Gay.

You mean hes just friendly because hes gay and not because bes attracted to me... Could be.

Im done thinking about it.

It's a thought doesn't mean it's true. But I still have faith that he might be interested in you. Give it some time and wait on results. If you show some interest in him without being aggressive about it. You might be surprised just a little. But just because someone is highly interested in you doesn't mean they like you in that way either. It's a bit of a Catch 22, but just wait and see and play it out. Don't think about it just let it flow like a river to see where it ends up.

(HUGGGZZZZZ)

Hang in there.  Don't let your desperation lead you down a path that isn't there.  If he's in to you he will let you know eventually.