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One of the Girls!

Started by EllenP, June 24, 2016, 04:39:13 PM

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EllenP

I did it.  I told my therapist that I'm gender dysphoric.  I am one of the girls!  What a relief to finally get that secret out - even if it is just to the therapist.  I could hear my heart beating harder and harder as I went up the stairs from the parking lot.  But this is exciting, I can't wait until the next session to start working through it all.  I started reading the newer literature on gender dysphoria this past week.  Several decades ago I was reading Benjamin and others.  What a change in the past twenty years.  And I couldn't have done today without knowing that there were wonderful men and women supporting me at Susan's Place.

Hugs and Kisses to all!
"But you can only lie about who you are for so long without going crazy."
― Ellen Wittlinger, Parrotfish
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Maybebaby56

Congratulations, Ellen!

You are so right - it is wonderfully liberating to finally tell someone, even if is only your therapist, that you identify as transgender. It makes it more real, somehow.  It's not just all in your head anymore, lol.

I am very happy for you.  There are many challenges to come, and some will feel insurmountable, but more often than not, you will be able to find the strength and courage in yourself to overcome them.

Blessings to you,

Terri
"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives" - Annie Dillard
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EllenP

Thank you so much Terri,
Indeed the future challenges look daunting and terrifying, but I think the hardest one was the first step.  No lightning bolts yet!
"But you can only lie about who you are for so long without going crazy."
― Ellen Wittlinger, Parrotfish
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KathyLauren

Woo-hoo!  Congratulations!

Coming out is a huge step, one that I know very well, having just done it myself this week.  I know the relief that you feel to have the burden of secrecy lifted, even just a bit.  Way to go!
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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jmyle

Congratulations! Super happy for you. I wish you all the best going forward :)
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EllenP

KathyLauren,

thank you so  much.  And congratulations to you as well!
"But you can only lie about who you are for so long without going crazy."
― Ellen Wittlinger, Parrotfish
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EllenP

Jmyle,

Thank you!  that is the first step in what is going to be a long walk.
"But you can only lie about who you are for so long without going crazy."
― Ellen Wittlinger, Parrotfish
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kylie1

Congrats Ellen! 
It changes when "someone knows" :) yay you!! 
Xx
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EllenP

Kylie,
It was as if the burden of the world was lifted off me.  Thank you for your thoughts.
"But you can only lie about who you are for so long without going crazy."
― Ellen Wittlinger, Parrotfish
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kaitylynn

The best part...it gets better for us as we see more and more external acceptance.  This is usually a boost to internal acceptance.  Congratulations on coming out!
Katherine Lynn M.

You've got a light that always guides you.
You speak of hope and change as something good.
Live your truth and know you're not alone.

The restart - 20-Oct-2015
Legal name and gender change affirmed - 27-Sep-2016
Breast Augmentation (Dr. Gupta) - 27-Aug-2018
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EllenP

Thank you so much, KaityLynn.  I am excited to move forward after so many years just spinning wheels.
"But you can only lie about who you are for so long without going crazy."
― Ellen Wittlinger, Parrotfish
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karmatic1110

Congrats!  I remember that feeling vividly of finally telling someone and what a huge relief it was. 

kaitylynn

You are ever so welcome.  This is a tough road, no doubt about it and acceptance is a really important aspect...both our own and that of others.

Went hiking today with my SO and while we were on the trail, we got lots of hellos from fellow travelers.  We were just a couple of chikas out for a morning trail walk.  In broad daylight, less then 5 feet separating and a gentleman hiking past says, "have a great day ladies!"

It is little things like this that bring about a sense that we are real and we are seen by others the way we see ourselves.  Heartening, gratifying and validating.  Keep to your course and practice self love!
Katherine Lynn M.

You've got a light that always guides you.
You speak of hope and change as something good.
Live your truth and know you're not alone.

The restart - 20-Oct-2015
Legal name and gender change affirmed - 27-Sep-2016
Breast Augmentation (Dr. Gupta) - 27-Aug-2018
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Janes Groove

congratulations. being out makes a HUGE difference.
the day after I came out I started dressing full time and haven't looked back.
no regrets whatsoever.
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Willowicious

Congratulations Ellen! I hope you have a wonderful transition and achieve everything you want to! :D


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