Not sure if I'm allowed to put this here, so please move it if that's the case.

There's a lot going on right now. The time has finally come for me to start my transition. My first appointment at an informed consent facility is in October, and I should be going on hormones in November. Next June, I'll get to go to my best friend's wedding, and for the first wedding in my life, as female. Somewhere in all this, I also plan to get laser on my face, and get my ears pierced.
Needless to say, I'm getting really excited about everything. I also want to start planning some more, so my wife and I are ahead of the game. (Like discussing the whole thing with our three year old, who is still in the dark.)

So, for SOs, how do I approach my wife with all this? She knows it's important to me, and she's supportive, but I don't want to overwhelm her with everything. I'm sure I should space out topics of discussion, but I don't want it to seem like I "talk about it all the time" (a quote from her, sadly.) :/

Quote from: ChelseaAnn on June 28, 2016, 02:19:55 PM
So, for SOs, how do I approach my wife with all this? She knows it's important to me, and she's supportive, but I don't want to overwhelm her with everything. I'm sure I should space out topics of discussion, but I don't want it to seem like I "talk about it all the time" (a quote from her, sadly.) :/

I would suggest giving her the high level timeline you outlined above and go from there asking her if there's any particular aspect she wants to talk about. It's not going to matter if you spread it out over a month or 6 months, for some of us it still feels like the only topic that's ever discussed.

Quote from: ChelseaAnn on June 28, 2016, 02:19:55 PM
Not sure if I'm allowed to put this here, so please move it if that's the case.

There's a lot going on right now. The time has finally come for me to start my transition. My first appointment at an informed consent facility is in October, and I should be going on hormones in November. Next June, I'll get to go to my best friend's wedding, and for the first wedding in my life, as female. Somewhere in all this, I also plan to get laser on my face, and get my ears pierced.
Needless to say, I'm getting really excited about everything. I also want to start planning some more, so my wife and I are ahead of the game. (Like discussing the whole thing with our three year old, who is still in the dark.)

So, for SOs, how do I approach my wife with all this? She knows it's important to me, and she's supportive, but I don't want to overwhelm her with everything. I'm sure I should space out topics of discussion, but I don't want it to seem like I "talk about it all the time" (a quote from her, sadly.) :/

HI,
I would agree in giving your wife a timeline of how you feel things may pan out, and where your thoughts are at the moment. Even with being supportive, there is a grieving process for your wife to go through:)
I felt things moved to fast with my SO back in December and I freaked out and separated...there was allot of lies as well...but I can see now if things were discussed opened and timelines been provided that I would of stayed. Take your time with your wife to work through each and every step...and be prepared that there is going to be loads of questions and your wife wont want to feel alone whilst asking these...she will want to feel fully supported as well. If you cannot give answers, give hugs instead. Good luck, I wish you both the best of luck x