Hah, yeah, nobody's perfect 
It's a good mantra to have, solving problems and moving onto the next. I can really struggle with that, as I hate having to jump through hoops, and a lot of my TG 'journey' feels like just that.
Sometimes I'm not feeling like improving, I'm feeling more like "people suck", and backing away. That's me I guess 
Yeah, hugging other women, hmmm. I think that I've automatically 'outed' myself on many occasions because I immediately become awkward when that situation arises. And almost always, the other woman senses this, and occasionally stops just before hugging, and instead shakes my hand or something. Those are my crash and burn moments, and make me question if I really made the right decision with transitioning at all. It's a reflex action, I wince and freeze up and panic if I'm in a group of women and the 'hug moment' arises.
I guess that's why I'm much more at ease within a group of guys, as I know that 'hug moment' almost never arises.
Yup, weird, that's me.
Maybe that's why I find myself here, on this board, 13 yrs post-op? Maybe I'm looking for validation that I did the 'right thing', even though I know that's a futile quest.
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