Quote from: EmilyRyan on July 15, 2016, 11:18:00 PM
Why can't the fact I want a job and willing to work be enough to get hired??

Pardon my frankness, but because you need to be able to perform the job.

I assume you can in fact do what the job entails, but I just wanted to be clear on that.  Now for actual advice.

If you come across as being obviously transgender, unfortunately that can be a very quick path to a rejection, as sad (and probably illegal, I don't keep up with the specifics of all these laws and the debates surrounding them) as that may be.  The same thing happened to most non-white people only a few decades ago.  I've heard that what they said is that you had to be twice as good as a white person to just get an equal job.  It's disgusting, but that's how much of America currently is (sorry if you're not in America).

That brings me back to my previous advice.  Always try to improve yourself.  If you keep learning new things and developing your skills while you're looking for jobs, you'll eventually find it easier to land a job and you'll perform better as well.  Or you may be able to leapfrog to an entirely new tier of jobs, if you find something you really like or excel at.  Plus, I find that the more I learn, the confident in myself I become, and it sounds like you need some confidence right now.

Particularly useful may be to study psychology.  The job market you're pursuing involves a lot of interpersonal interaction, and so understanding why people behave the way they do may help.  And it could quite possibly help you figure out how to best present yourself to the hiring managers as well.

Also, don't take rejections too much to heart.  Learn from them, if possible, and then look forward to the next opportunity.  Also, depending on the number of people you're competing against for these jobs, you may simply have been getting poor luck in not being chosen.  If you're applying alongside 30 others, and the hiring manager (seeing that all applicants are equally satisfactory) randomly chooses one, it's to be expected that you'll be rejected from ~15 or so until you actually get the job, on average.  So give yourself the benefit of the doubt!  Maybe you're a perfectly decent applicant with poor luck.  You'll probably catch a break soon.

Yeah I'm not out publicly as transgender and I still have the appearance of a cis male and don't plan to start hrt until I can move out since my parents are very anti-lgbt and some other issues.

And yeah I live in the U.S. (Tennessee)

I have soo much to contribute and I make that clear on my resume I freaking hate the competition just to get a job just so I can live and don't starve. I mean how are we human beings suppose to live if we're required to have an income in order to do so but you have to get a job to do that and there's sooo much gate keeping in order to do that I mean not everyone is capable of the competition involved what happens to those who can't compete are they left to starve and die?? Please I would like someone to answer this without changing the subject.

I'm sorry for the rant here I'm just frustrated at what I have to go though just to work and make a living

im so so sorry to hear about your job situation. i recently just wrapped up searching for my current job, i just wanted to offer you a hand my friends actually get me to look over there resumes sometimes, i could help tweak if youd like <3 <3


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Quote from: EmilyRyan on July 16, 2016, 12:01:44 AM
I have soo much to contribute and I make that clear on my resume I freaking hate the competition just to get a job just so I can live and don't starve. I mean how are we human beings suppose to live if we're required to have an income in order to do so but you have to get a job to do that and there's sooo much gate keeping in order to do that I mean not everyone is capable of the competition involved what happens to those who can't compete are they left to starve and die?? Please I would like someone to answer this without changing the subject.

I'm sorry for the rant here I'm just frustrated at what I have to go though just to work and make a living

People who can't compete in the job market typically have a reason for that - usually they have some kind of circumstance that precludes them from working the way most people do, and these circumstances allow them to access government assistance. Since you are presumably still supported to an extent by your parents since you are allowed to live with them, I'm not sure you would be able to access any of those benefits. Not 100% sure, as I'm not an expert in that realm. But anyway, there are programs at every level (local, state, federal) to provide people with the means to feed and house themselves while they stabilize. The only reason I have ever seen anyone starving is because they were either ignorant of the existence of those programs, too proud to access them, or were a child of someone who was either of the aforementioned things.

There are even private programs to assist people with things like food and housing. Most churches in my area that have their own building will allow down on their luck folks to stay there. There are free meals at services and activities. My church also runs a free fresh produce market for people that couldn't otherwise afford it. These places don't care if you're a member or what you believe in. Sure, they'd like you to join in, but most important is getting your basic needs met and they will gladly see to that if you are willing to show up.

Everyone I've met who doesn't excel in typical work environments and isn't looking for government assistance tends to have good luck with start-ups (provided they have the skills), overnight work (think security or hotel staff), or positions that are very solitary like OTR driving or remote customer service.

The best thing you could probably do now while you're looking is figure out what exactly you could see yourself doing long term. Chances are, there are requirements aside from seniority to get there. So you could start by getting back into school if that's a requirement, or building a portfolio.

I have hiring authority at my main job and I run my own business part-time. If you would like to send me your resume, I'd be happy to look at it and critique it. I wouldn't be able to formally interview you or offer you anything unless you were local to the DC area or had the relevant certifications for the kind of work I do, but I could potentially point you towards local resources more effectively having seen your resume and knowing more about what you'd ultimately like to do.

Quote from: bumblebreeze on July 16, 2016, 05:13:03 AM
im so so sorry to hear about your job situation. i recently just wrapped up searching for my current job, i just wanted to offer you a hand my friends actually get me to look over there resumes sometimes, i could help tweak if youd like <3 <3


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