I am still pre T and have crying spells and have had all my life due to some mental illness. I heard T will make someone less emotive. A transman friend of mine told me he is unable to cry anymore so he gets angry instead. Will the T stop my tears so I appear more manly?

T may reduce some of the emotions you  feel but it's not going to eliminate them. Men cry for a number of reason and one of the more common ones is the loss of a loved one. Some of it's social training and sometimes it's a case of anger instead of crying. Personally I never was very fond of anger and would rather cry if I had to chose between one of the two.

It was kinda hard to make me cry pre-T to begin with but it was purely due to my self-control over it. In other words, I bottled it up and it had come out eventually so I had breakdowns every now and then. After starting T, it's been nearly impossible for me to cry. Like the feeling and emotion is there but it's just physically impossible. In a way it's good because I really dislike crying - especially in front of people - but sometimes there are moments when the only way to feel better would be to have a good cry but nothing comes out. In my case, I don't get angry instead of crying, I start feeling anxious because there's no outlet anymore.

Quote from: Dena on July 19, 2016, 08:36:56 PM
Men cry for a number of reason and one of the more common ones is the loss of a loved one.

We lost our cat about year and a half ago (we had to put him down) and I literally cried for days. So yeah, men do cry, there's nothing bad about it. It just usually takes a lot to make it happen.

Mine is because of clinical depression and bi polar disorder. It's not linked to any events.

T had never made me less emotional. I cry less now, but that isn't because of the T. I'm happier so I don't cry as much as I used to.

But put me down in front of a good movie, book, emotional scene in a video game and I'll cry. Crying is totally natural. I've only met one man who didn't cry, and honestly he really needs it. I'm not quicker to anger now, either. 

T doesn't change who you are. I think many transmen noticed differences after starting T because all of a sudden they feel like they can be themselves. As for me, I'm the same person I always,  I'm just happier and more even tempered because I feel good.

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I wouldn't say I was emotional pre-T, but I did stress cry pretty regularly. Now, I can't cry anymore. I don't really get emotional over anything, it takes a lot to work me up and even then I'm much more likely to withdraw than outwardly express anything. There have been times where I think it would be nice to cry, but it just physically doesn't happen for me anymore.

I was quite emotional pre T as well. When I got mad I would cry, when I was depressed I would cry and hide in my room for days. Being on T I haven't cried in a really long time and I just get mad instead. A lot of things just roll off my shoulders now and I only get depressed once in awhile. I can't say it will help you 100% because it's different for everyone.

The only thing I get teary eyed about are like those sad animal videos that have a happy ending haha.

I think it's likely that T will alleviate your depression somewhat and that combined with the kind of mysterious link between hormones and tears may make you less prone to these crying jags.

I haven't honestly noticed a difference--things that move me emotionally make me well up, but I was never a big cryer. I think if I'm in some sort of danger my voice doesn't get choked like it used to and I'm not on the verge of tears any more. That sort of crying is viewed so negatively by society that I don't miss it.

Quote from: Ayden on July 20, 2016, 12:03:05 PM
T had never made me less emotional. I cry less now, but that isn't because of the T. I'm happier so I don't cry as much as I used to.

But put me down in front of a good movie, book, emotional scene in a video game and I'll cry. Crying is totally natural. I've only met one man who didn't cry, and honestly he really needs it. I'm not quicker to anger now, either. 

T doesn't change who you are. I think many transmen noticed differences after starting T because all of a sudden they feel like they can be themselves. As for me, I'm the same person I always,  I'm just happier and more even tempered because I feel good.

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I don't get emotional about anything in the media. I get sad about real life social conflicts and when I'm unable to do activities I want to relieve stress such as having no choice but to live somewhere were there's no gym and feeling cabin fever from living too far outside the city. I have a lot of stress related to being in the wilderness and away from cities.

I never suffered mood swings with natural female hormones. Nor even with unnatural ones. They happened usually because someone I care about was pitching a fit and making me feel like everything I've worked hard for and the meager amount of stability in my life was about to end.   

I don't anymore. I've come to the point where I know it does absolutely no good, and the things I am upset about are not going to change. There's no crying or welling up. I just find something else to do to forget about it. Maybe I've just accepted my life is pretty screwed or something. I don't know.

No idea how someone with BPD should deal with it though. If you take T a lot of people report it being harder to cry. But it might still make you feel torn up inside just unable to let it out. Some say working out and going outside helps.

Quote from: T.K.G.W. on July 24, 2016, 07:23:10 PM
I never suffered mood swings with natural female hormones. Nor even with unnatural ones. They happened usually because someone I care about was pitching a fit and making me feel like everything I've worked hard for and the meager amount of stability in my life was about to end.   

I don't anymore. I've come to the point where I know it does absolutely no good, and the things I am upset about are not going to change. There's no crying or welling up. I just find something else to do to forget about it. Maybe I've just accepted my life is pretty screwed or something. I don't know.

No idea how someone with BPD should deal with it though. If you take T a lot of people report it being harder to cry. But it might still make you feel torn up inside just unable to let it out. Some say working out and going outside helps.

Working out does help but I've been unable to for a long time and that's a major let down.

It's different for everyone. I cry just as much as I did before I started T, if not more.

A few months after I started T, I noticed that I had a great deal of trouble crying, even when I was stressed and actually needed to cry. This difficulty was the most dramatic in the first few years. I cry somewhat more easily now, but I'm not sure whether it's because I worked on it or because I'm on a lower dose now. Maybe both. And I know that I'm more emotionally present than I ever used to be; now that I think about it, although crying comes harder now, I actually cry more post-T than pre-T. Before, I was so emotionally shut down that all of my emotions were muted. I lived in a weird sort of neutral zone most of the time, muffled, protected. Frankly, it was quite horrible.

I cry when I feel grief, but I tend to have one big, violent outburst after a loss and then not so much after that. I often cry some when I'm triggered (more often than I would like).