Hi there everyone. Closeted married man. Like many here, no doubt, I've fought my feelings of femininity since I was a teen. I so wish I could be true to myself, but life has intervened. Looking to share experiences with like minded folks. Not sure what else to say, but wanted to at least make a start ...

Hi Abi,
I go by Tina. I too am married and have been closeted for decades. I'm just starting to change all that.
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Welcome to Susan's Place. We have people in all stages of the transition including people who are just coming out of the closet. You will find plenty of people willing to help and in time, I am sure you will be able to help others. If there is anything I can help you with, let me know.

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Hi Abi 

Welcome to Susan's    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

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V M

I am only slightly ahead of you having been here on this site about 4 months. Anything you want to know is here. I have learned so much that I think I'm on the cusp of HRT I'll know for sure Aug 18. I want to remain optimistic.
I'm married twice First wife too young to understand and we divorced. I did love her so much. Then I met my current wife and we have been together 31 years. Luckily Jo is much more understanding, plus she knew before she married me. We have two grown children and I have announced my intention for hormone treatment to all my loved ones. So far so good.

Quote from: TinaW on July 29, 2016, 03:07:14 PM
Hi Abi,
I go by Tina. I too am married and have been closeted for decades. I'm just starting to change all that.
Welcome to Susan's Place!

Thank you, Tina! Glad to make your acquaintance!

Thanks, Dena, VM, and Dawn! I'm glad to be here ...

Hi Abi and welcome.  I can relate very well to your situation.  Without getting into the weeds, I too opted for denial/hiding due to life circumstances.  I'll only say for now that you shouldn't be too hard on yourself.  Everyone's situation is different and From my experience I would encourage you not to judge your choices by those decisions and their timing by that of anyone else.  A warm welcome.

Trisha K

I was closeted and have been married to the first and only now since 1982, coming up on 34 years.

I was so afraid to open up that  my wife had created this whole scenario in her mind that I was having  gay affairs somewhere.  I wasn't, and I have been 100% faithful all along.  But needless to say, this was causing us huge problems.

Finally, because of the constant fighting, dysphoria depression, and because of my utter disgust with myself for being too cowardly to tell the truth I felt that suicide was my only option.   So I planned it and rehearsed it in my mind over and over.  I got as far as physically rehearsing the actions with my pistol then realized that I didn't really want to die. 

So with absolutely nothing left to lose I told her I was trans.  That was the single hardest thing I have ever done in my life.  The amazing thing was that once she understood what was going on her anger evaporated.  That was around ten years ago and we are still married, happily even.

So, in my mind at least I have elevated her to the level of sainthood.  :-)

Sometimes the fear of what might happen is much worse than the reality.