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Started by Artesia, July 27, 2016, 08:47:15 PM

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Artesia

Well.  My hair simply will not grow anymore.  It is very thin, and never grows past shoulder length(hopefully hormones will fix this, but not holding my breath) .  How does one decide on a wig, is there a way to size them or are they a one size fits all kind of deal?  How can one tell the quality of the item, especially if purchased on the internet?  Does anyone know a reputable dealer who is not too expensive?  I don't want to go cheap, but I've seen someone trying to sell a wig for $13K.
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Cindy

Well I have just been through this as I am losing my hair following chemoradiotherapy. If you can go to a wig shop. They deal essentially with two client types. Cancer patients and transgender people.

They will fit and style a wig to suit you and your finances. Sure I was shown a $10,000 human hair beauty but one look was enough to convince me, the attendant and my friend who came with me that it was rubbish on me (and way out of my bank balance).

I settled for a very nice wig which in posted in my Cindy's Cancer Blog. It will (if I need it) cost about $AUS500, about $US300. They will supply care, washing, ongoing support.

If you can pluck up the courage (I've been FT for years so no issues) get professionally fitted.

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Mariah

Cindy is right, if you can please due get professionally fitted because they can get you the right wig for your situation. I would have been offer doing that with my first wig, but learned from mistake. Hugs
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anne_indy

I agree with the recommendation to go to a professional wig shop. I found one that catered to TG individuals and even going in in my male mode, they were extremely helpful with color and style. I came away amazed with how much the quality and style bolstered my view of my female self.


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Megan.

I went to a shop too, first time in male mode, second time as femme. They were very polite and helpful on both occasions.
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Lyric

Yes, by far the best bet for wig novice is to go to a good wig shop. It is possible to end up with a good wig look shopping online, but be prepared to buy multiple wigs that don't work first and even once you get a good one you'll probably need to do a lot of fitting and styling to make it work for you. The wigs as shops are often pricier than the bargains you see online, but you'll probably come ahead in the long run.

The most serious and effective wig wearers I know are women with alopecia and other hair loss issues. There are some good forums by such folks online. Also, there are many great videos on YouTube on the subject of wigs and wig styling. I suggest you start watching right away. As a full time wig wearer you need to become your own wig expert eventually.
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Jacqueline

I too am unlikely to have hair grow back Even at this point(almost 6 months on HRT). Last January I visited a place that does exactly what Cindy spoke of. They cater to medical patients and transgender people. (Genesis II Hair replacement - they also do medical transplants, I think). They were great and walked me through all the options, costs and found a very high quality synthetic that wears very well. It cost a little more than what Cindy's would. However, no where near 10K. or even 1.

I am not full time so eventually I may have to spend more and upgrade. Either a fantastic wig or one that is semi-permenantly attached then replaced after 6 or more months.

Good Luck.

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V

I used to wear wigs too. Luckily my hair returned just about enough for me to get away without wearing one, but it is really thin, and if I do lose any more, I'll have to go back to wearing wigs.
I went to a professional wig shop. I did some research and found one that came recommended, and I booked an appointment. It was actually great fun as I was able to try on so many different colours and styles It was difficult to choose one to buy actually, as there were so many I liked. I took a friend along, and she was a great help in helping me to pick a decent style. I actually bought three of the same type. One to wear while the other was being washed, and one as a spare, just in case. I was wearing them full-time, so they took a lot of punishment. They don't last forever if you wear them every day. but I did find it was fun to style them, as it's easier than trying with hair that's on your head. When it's on a wig stand (invest in a good wig stand if you can) it's easier to dry and style it as it's all in front of you, and you get to feel like your own hairdresser!
I always used a wig cap too, as it stopped the oils from my hair/scalp from getting into the wig too much.
I know it's a real drag having to resort to wig wearing, but I tried to have as much fun with them as I could. In many ways I miss the convenience of simply grabbing a perfectly styled head of hair and putting it on my head, as opposed to having to wash/style my own hair after I've slept on it funny.
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Artesia

How long do wigs last, on average?

What is some of the terminology?  She asked me about styles of wigs, and type of wear or something to that effect.  I don't know what style/type of wear, or any of the terminology used for that matter, I just want to find a wig that looks good on me, and looks at least mostly like natural hair, without spending huge amounts of money.

I know the $7 Amazon wig is going to be junk, not so sure about the $80 Amazon wig, it got some good reviews, and the pictures look good.

The shop I found it's cheapest wig is $90, (the 1 I liked was $190)but I didn't understand what she was saying about hair type, count, and tied stuff.  I should have recorded the conversation, so I could give a better description of what she as saying, because I didn't understand it.  I guess that is how people view me when I'm talking about my games.
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Dena

I don't know how long wigs last but the number of hairs will determine the density and the hair may be installed single or in bunches. Single hairs are more expensive because of the labor but will look better. As for hair style, you need to determine what will look good on you. A long thin face will look better with a shorter full cut. A round or heart shaped face can get away with longer hair. You might try looking here to see some of the styles that are available.
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Michelle_P

Dena gave you the good scoop on the basics. 

The cheap wigs are usually made with bunches of synthetic hair glued or machine tied to a simple wig cap, which will have some sort of mesh structure attached to a slightly elastic flexible band.  There are usually a couple of elastic straps inside the cap that can be stretched and hooked into loops if the cap is too large to fit well.   These are generally 'one size fits all', so they won't fit well.  :)  I've got one of these cheapies still (just found it, cleaning out some stuff) and it's pretty nasty looking at close range.  The hair density is thin enough that the cap shows through in places.

As you go up in price, a couple of improvements can be found, such as finer synthetic 'hair', and finer meshes in the caps so the hair 'clumps' are smaller and closer together, or sometimes even individually machine tied.  These wigs tend to look a little better and hold up longer.  There's usually a patch of 'skin' colored material at the back or crown where the hairs appear to radiate outward from, so from behind at a little distance it's not too obviously wiggy.  These are the typical $25 wigs on Amazon.

The stuff in a wig shop, unless they specialize in Halloween costumes and party wigs, will generally start with finer synthetic hair, often blended with multiple colors, and better caps with more range and often a silicone pad along the forehead.  They may have pads for placement of wig tape, a medical double-sided tape that allows the wig to be anchored for more active wearers, wind exposure, and other top flipping risks.

Once you get into the $100 and up wigs, you'll also find a couple of really nice improvements.  Mono tops, wigs that include a monofilament mesh as part or all of the cap, have individual hairs tied down to a fine mesh.  Close up this looks pretty natural.  It has the advantage that things like parts can be combed into the wig, and a limited amount of restyling can be done.  (Look at those cheap wigs again.  There's a reason they have a solid wall of 'bangs' and no part.  The cap would show!)

Lace front and lace top wigs are another variation that shows up.  These use a fine mesh to hold the hair at the front of the wig (at least). Special adhesives or wig tape can be used to attach the lace front to the scalp, which looks a lot like a hairline from a few feet or further back.  Again, a part can be combed into these that looks pretty good, and can be changed.

Once you get into the several-hundred dollar range you'll find human hair wigs, and blends of human and synthetic.  These get pricy, and take some care.

Even the relatively cheap synthetic wigs can hold up well with some care.  Get a wig shampoo, and wig conditioner.  A wig styling spray will be useful.  There are 'travel' three packs sold that include the shampoo, conditioner, and styling spray, for $20-30 USD. A wig stand, an open frame to support the wig while stored or drying is also important.  These are cheap, packs of 6 for $6 on Amazon.  Yeah, three may be broken on delivery, but you've still got spares. ;)  You'll also need wig brushes (these have loops instead of bristles to help straighten a wig), and rakes, a brush with short metal bristles, usually plastic tipped.

You'll want some wig caps, the things that look like nylon stockings that you pull over your hair or shiny head before putting on the wig.  These reduce the transfer of skin oils to the wig, so it can go longer between washings and last longer.

You don't really need a styrofoam head, unless that helps you with visualizing a style.  You'll probably want some sort of case to store the wigs on the stands when you aren't wearing them. I have a 24" x 12" x 15" high case that holds 3 wigs on stands, accessories, cleaning supplies, and brushes.

My oldest wig is about 4 years old, and I still wear it a few times a week.  My 'best' wig is a multi-color synthetic hair wig, 65% gray and 35% brown, with a mono top.  It matches what my remaining natural hair looks like very well.  That's what my avatar is wearing today.
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JoanneB

Going to a T friendly wig shop is your best bet... with a friend. They can save you a lot in the long run by avoiding a lot of trial and error between colors and styles. Getting the best color choices for your skin can be tricky. Naturally, your natural color works. And like clothes what looked great in the store just may look horrible the next day at home.

Low cost wigs are a great way to experiment. You can get the feel for how basic styles like long, short, straight, curly, wavey etc. and see for sure in spite of or because of the experts opinions on what's best for you. The wrong color can make anything look horrible. BTW - unless you are a stunning blond.....

Since my own hair started receding rapidly when I was 16 I'm a long time wig wearer. Never had another option besides trying to be a 'normal' (bald) guy. There are several good on-line shops. The one I use even has what they call "color insurance". If you "Borrowed" a color ring and don't like the look on you, you get a free color change (not style). I tend to pay in the $150 USD up to $250. Synthetic fibers used seem to vary with cost, surprise surprise. Cheap wigs fail fast. More expensive ones can also. No good way to know ahead of time besides experience with the brand and research. The alepecia sites/boards are pretty good resources. Nobody wants to drop a couple of hundred dollars on something that is garbage after a few wearings or a windy day.
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Artesia

The woman at the shop said she has several male clients who get women's wigs, so maybe there is a large cross dressing population here.  She didn't bat an eye when I said the wig would be for me, and that I wanted a woman's style.  She made a couple of suggestions for a more natural looking wig, and said a bunch of stuff that makes a bit more sense now, thank you ladies.  I have an appointment for Friday, after I get back from my Psychologist, and weight management appointments.  I'll see about bringing my wife along, some days she is more on board than others.
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Maria77

Michelle's post is really good.  If you do have some hair in front that you can use for bangs, or just "leave out"   a fall or 3/4 wig can give you a very realistic look.   
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tgirlamg

After years in synthetic wigs... Mostly made by Estetica... I switched over to hand tied human hair wigs... They require more effort but they look and feel can't be beat... They are very much a blank canvas that can be colored and styled to suit what you want.... If you get on the email lists of the major online retailers you can often take advantage of 30-40 % off sales.... Also be aware that most wigs can be a bit disappointing right out of the box but you can work with them... Human hairs need washing and professional styling and synthetic's are often a bit too styled and need to be broken in a bit... Steam can help that process along...

Take Care,

Ashley :)
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