Ok so yes I finally having a plan being put together and finally found some employers in my area that's open to hire and work with my learning disability (and ASD once officially diagnosed) yet everything feels like a complete standstill.

I'd really like to finally start hrt and the longer without the more waking up everyday is becoming torturous and this past few days have been brutal. My living situation with my parents currently prevents me from getting a job and therefore I can't save no more than I have to get a place to rent. For me to even get a job I gotta get out first but lack of adequate funds prevents that.   

I have no easy or better way of saying this I'm desperate for help not from therapy I don't need it I need help getting on hrt.   

Sounds like the only remaining roadblock on the whole thing is your parents.  Why don't they want you to get a job?

I've raised three children to maturity.  I can't speak for anyone else, but one of the happiest experiences in my life was watching them go out in the world, get jobs, make their way and become self sufficient.  Not to mention it was nice converting my youngest kid's former bedroom into a guestroom so my wife and I can have company stay over.

I cannot understand why your parents would not be happy about you finding your way back into the job market.

My dad in particular wants me to be a teacher rather than try to get a job doing whatever. I don't know why I guess he feels it's the only suitable job for me(and with the current job market I can see how considering I'm not good at anything anyway) which in reality isn't suitable for me one bit. I couldn't say no either cause he get real mad if I did and it wouldn't be good. Needless to say I'm scared to say anything so just like any other trans kid with unaccepting parents I gonna have no choice but to runaway from home with only the clothes on my back.

Yeah I really don't know what to do about my parents whatsoever.

I just can't seem to find a way around the situation.

Anyone have any suggestions??

And yes unfortunately I truly can't get my foot into a job until I can flee from my current living situation and I don't know where I could live until I can get an income going. There's just no way around it.

How about college?

Quote from: IdontEven on August 21, 2016, 09:12:24 AM
How about college?

That's what I'm actually doing right now only that it's a community college and I've already graduated there with a two year gen ed degree. I'm only back cause the university I would otherwise be attending does classes at the community college for the teaching program I was doing because I was forced to do and dared not say no to my parents. This semester I'm taking more artsy classes without my parents knowing.

With that all said are there any other options besides living on a college campus I rather not rack up a bunch of student debt. Also I'm unable to join the military before anyone mentions that.

Emily, sweetie, you would be good in a whole raft of jobs, it's only conditioning and practice from home that is making you feel that you aren't 'good at anything'. Having lived through the same, I can reassure you that you will be great at some thing, and you will feel the satisfaction of doing it your way.

Some parents want to help and guide their children into areas that they feel are safe and secure, and blinker themselves (or deny), other options, and often forget that as a young adult, you are entitled to make decisions about your own life.

As the debt is in your name, it's up to you.

If you can get a job, and you think you can make the numbers work (food, bills, transport, insurance) in your local town, if your dad did decide to ask you to leave, then all you would need to do would be work out when. I'm sure your mum would have a lot to say about that however!

The hardest part I find is making the choice and sticking to it. Life is always full of options and I'm sure you can make a success of it!

Sno

Quote from: Sno on August 21, 2016, 07:17:16 PM
Emily, sweetie, you would be good in a whole raft of jobs, it's only conditioning and practice from home that is making you feel that you aren't 'good at anything'. Having lived through the same, I can reassure you that you will be great at some thing, and you will feel the satisfaction of doing it your way.

Some parents want to help and guide their children into areas that they feel are safe and secure, and blinker themselves (or deny), other options, and often forget that as a young adult, you are entitled to make decisions about your own life.

As the debt is in your name, it's up to you.

If you can get a job, and you think you can make the numbers work (food, bills, transport, insurance) in your local town, if your dad did decide to ask you to leave, then all you would need to do would be work out when. I'm sure your mum would have a lot to say about that however!

The hardest part I find is making the choice and sticking to it. Life is always full of options and I'm sure you can make a success of it!

Sno

I can't tell them I want to do something else that'll cause a conflict I don't want and I don't like getting cussed out and my mom is on my dad's side on this issue. I really got to find another living situation before I can do anything like get a job.

It does sound like your dad wants you to be successful, but even at the same time of course aim higher, but there would of course be stepping stones to get there, even of it is a part time somewhere where it isn't the specific field like a teacher. Sounds like he is saying in essence everything not a teacher would be beneath you and he wants you to succeed in that, but even in the grand scheme of it all, even a part time something is never a bad choice especially if it will be financial benefitting in the least.

Kate <3
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