My name is Kevs from Toronto Canada.  Ever since I was a kid I have always questioned my sexual identy. Alot of my times I feel like Im a women and i feel I belong.   I have crosdressed and It felt great.  I always wanted to grow breasts.   So now that im in my mid 20'S i feel like im ready to transition.  But where do I begin?

Quote from: Kevs88 on August 19, 2016, 11:02:15 PM
My name is Kevs from Toronto Canada.  Ever since I was a kid I have always questioned my sexual identy. Alot of my times I feel like Im a women and i feel I belong.   I have crosdressed and It felt great.  I always wanted to grow breasts.   So now that im in my mid 20'S i feel like im ready to transition.  But where do I begin?

Go to sherbourne health centre. they'll be able to help you. or the 519 on church streeet...

http://www.the519.org/programs

http://sherbourne.on.ca/lgbt-health/guidelines-protocols-for-trans-care/

Welcome to Susan's Place. A good place to start would be a gender therapist so you can determine what a transition means to you. This will also connect you with your countries medical system for the treatment like HRT and surgery. Then you start knocking of the problems one at a time. Hair removal, voice training, makeup, appearance and any of the other items you will need to deal with. We have many members on the site from your country and they will drop in to answer your questions but from what I understand many of the costs may be covered by your government. We can provide much of the knowledge you will need so that you may be able to take the quickest path through your transition. Feel free to ask me any question.

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Not to get too far ahead of ourselves, but don't underestimate the importance and difficulty of hair removal.  It takes a LONG time, is generally either extremely painful, extremely expensive or both, and can be the single biggest obstacle (esp. facial hair) to a more feminine look. 

Good luck to you, and looking forward to hearing more about your journey.  Welcome!!

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In Ontario now your family dr has a lot of power with regards to your transition and they can send you to the right people. Medically speaking it's actually a very good time to be trans in Ontario


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Quote from: mszoey on August 20, 2016, 06:58:26 AM
In Ontario now your family dr has a lot of power with regards to your transition and they can send you to the right people. Medically speaking it's actually a very good time to be trans in Ontario


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Yep this is true

Why is gender therapy so important? Every where i read and every where I ask they all say start with gender therapy.  I get very busy working 2 jobs. 6 days a week.  Why cant I just find an endo and just make appointments with him/her? I dont really have time for gender therapy sessions.

I have seen members who have had no exposure to the non binary and think they are binary. In truth they fall into the non binary and transitioning may or may not be the right thing for them. A gender therapist can help explore those feeling in sufficient detail that no mistakes will be made.

Next, I am not familiar with Canada's medical system but if you want them to pay for treatment, you will need to play by their rules. Most of the time the rules are similar to the ones I transitioned under and are on the conservative side.

And last but not least, it's common for us to pick up emotional baggage over the years and dealing with it will make the transition far more successful.

The only problem I worry is.  What if they say I dont have a need to transition.  But I want to transition.

Generally if it's like you say they won't tell you that. But it also doesn't hurt to get a 2nd opinion either


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It is really fun to watch a young person seeking something new. My perspective has changed now that I am in my late sixties. I remember back to being your age and it was always intense, passionate and urgent. These are great characteristics and please struggle to never lose them but also try to not be totally owned by them. When I knew that I wanted/needed to transition I wanted to do it immediately. I also saw it as a very binary step, I wanted to do it right then and I wanted to get it done and get on with my life in my new form right away, treating it as a step, not a journey (and I started late in life). I was and still am blind to many of the steps in the journey. My therapist was not a gate keeper to me, she did not try to keep me from reaching the goal that I so urgently sought. She did broaden my awareness of how encompassing the changes were and how many steps could either be struggled through or turned into opportunities to more fully enjoy the magic of transitioning. The journey is long and full, a therapist can possibly help you to enjoy the changes more and to avoid many of the pitfalls hidden along the way. She made sure that I had the things that I would need to have a better chance of success, stressing support groups, resources, letting me know that no matter how much I believed that I understood what was coming, I was probably wrong, and she was right in so many ways. I would recommend that you not look at this as a hurdle to prevent you from achieving your goals but rather a resource to help you make the transitioning even better. Sorry for the preaching..Anne

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Kevs:

Also, locate support groups,

Toronto is a large enough city to have at least one, maybe more, transsexual or LGBT support groups.  Meet with them as frequently as you can, get to know the members, they can lead you through the process step-by-step.

You will learn where you fit through your course of counselling and meeting others to see what is out here in this big wide world of opportunity that awaits you.

Keep a diary or journal to help compose your thoughts along your way.

As another elder, I second Anne's comments.

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the thing is I think i am bi gender.  Somedays im a male and other days i can fee like a women.  I closet cross dress and soon try make up.   Im afarid the threpest will say.  Oh you are not bi gender you just like cross dressing.  But what if i want to be bigender be male and have breasts.  Would they be ok with that?  So some days ill just be a guy with breasts,  and other days i can just dress up like a girl and be feminime.

Hello Kevs, gender labels are very confusing for me. The best that I can handle is gender fluid. Currently my heart is happiest in female mode but my life's constraints keep me living in both modes. My wife loves, supports and needs both parts of me. My discussions with my therapist came to something like this. I have needs, at different times, to live in three different gender realms. My heart really wants and needs a lot of Anne time. My life needs parts of my male time. My identity or most common head place is somewhere in between but appears to be more female than male. I realized that I need to live in both modes and my therapist saw no problem with supporting transition and biasing my identity in the Anne world and still visit the male side when the life needs arise. HRT has begun an Anne thrives and my male identity can surface when it is needed. This works for me and my wife, and my therapist is very happy with it also. No need for hard line binary shifts. Gender fluid and hrt is very compatible with my therapists view of the world. Thus, two months into hrt as of tomorrow.

Good luck,
Anne

Here is my update.
Well I started e-mailing hormone clinics and non of them did hormone replacement threpy for trans people. The best they did was suggested a dr from toronto.  so I had to go to a walk in too see if they had any other suggestions.  One was camh but their waitlist is long.  The other clinic sherborne is not accepting new patients.  So I asked the walk in dr if they can refer me to the one the hormone clinic suggested.  So they refered me.  And i went to the guys clinic and booked an appointmenr

Quote from: Kevs88 on August 19, 2016, 11:02:15 PM
My name is Kevs from Toronto Canada.  Ever since I was a kid I have always questioned my sexual identy. Alot of my times I feel like Im a women and i feel I belong.   I have crosdressed and It felt great.  I always wanted to grow breasts.   So now that im in my mid 20'S i feel like im ready to transition.  But where do I begin?

I would ask you to watch Princess Joules on YouTube. She is a twenty something from Vancouver that has undergone all the surgeries. She presents her life without sugar coating, I learned a lot while watching these.