Good morning guys and dolls.

There seems to be an awful lot of asexuality going on around here. I'd never even knew it was real. Such a foriegn concept to me, but ya'll are here.

So, are transsexuals and androgynes more likely to be asexual or at least not sexually active?
If so, why is that do you think?
Any theories, thoughts, declarations of your own asexuality and why you can never be converted?

I don't think I'm asexual but I'm not sexual active. Well I never had sex with anyone and I'm 33. The time I did almost had sex was very awkward and uncomfortable. Felt like I was operating machinery it might been the reason why I was doing it I was trying to keep a friend around. I think once I get more comfortable with body this might change and right now my body image is kind of low. As for my sexuality I'm a little freak out about it since I been on hormones. I have lot of feelings about sex but there is not that drive that use to be there but there is still motivation just different I guess.




Later,
Anna

I suppose not being comfortable with the body you are born with allows people to learn other ways of enjoying life. By the time you change things the pattern is set.

I've only ever been with one girl, and her I married... and later divorced. As annajasmine commented, I also felt distinctly uncomfortable, and since splitting up, I've been celibate - going on 6 years now. I'd never had much of a sex-drive, but since then I'm for all intents and purposes a-sexual. I find both sexes mildly attractive, but only after I get to know the person and start sizing him/her up as a soul-mate. I'm much more interested in whether there's a ... connection there, and frankly sex is the last thing on my mind.

I suppose it's a combination of being very uncomfortable with the body you are in plus general loneliness and a need for companionship, but who knows - maybe it's just the lack of testosterone.

I think asexuality is a nice thing to sort of claim during the whole process while you sort out and try to figure out your sexual orientation.  I mean, is it permanent for most people?  I don't know. . . I myself just don't feel comfortable with either right now romantically, so that's why I choose this route.  Will it change in the future?  Probably, I say.

I don't know if I am Asexual or not. All I know is that I'm married to my life partner and she doesn't want to have sex with a woman. Well, I'm a woman and I love her but I really don't care about having sex. Sure I would love to have sex but it isn't a deal breaker, I can live with out. There are a lot of other characteristics I like about her and frankly I can live with out the sex. She makes my day go on and to live without her would not be a good existence for me. She feels the same. Yes, we have talked about this a lot. Some people are driven to sex and that is all they think about, trying to find the best sex. What a waste of a life. I guess I'm just too simple of a person.
Sheila