I've just started puberty...of the wrong gender. (MTF) I know puberty is something that is hard for all teens, but going through puberty of the wrong gender is even more terrifying. I want to tell my parents that I want to go onto blockers. They don't know I'm trans and I know I have to tell them that first. If you have any tips on coming out to a judging family, please let me know. But once I get past that, they'll probably be shocked and I don't know if they will let me take blockers. I'm scared they're going to deny that in trans or say that I'm confused. I know I need to be strong, but I don't think I'll ever be fully ready to tell anybody for the first time. But I need tips on how to tell my parents and how to get them to let me take blockers. I have just started male puberty and growing hair on my arms and legs. My voice is deepening and I hate it. I can feel an Adams Apple developing. I want to tell them soon because I know it'll be easier to transition that way, but I don't know how to tell them. I need advice on how to tell my parents and when I should tell them. Please, I don't know what to do and I'm desperate.

We have letters that will help you come out but the question is do you have anything you need to know before you talk to them? Depending on how they react, you might tell them about this site and the Significant Other section of the site that is just for them. If they post in that area of the site they will be permitted for the most part to say what they want without criticism from the other members.

Something to consider is many schools have consolers who are aware of transgender issues. If the school is small a trusted teacher or the school nurse may be able to hep you. One additional thing that might help is the link I have to a letter I was working on for difficult parents. Feel free to rework it or just learn from it. You may ask me any questions you have on this thread and I will do my best to answer them.

What you are facing is one of the most difficult things I have done but once you do it, you don't have to fear it any longer.

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190312.0.html

Thank you very much. I don't think I really need to know anything, but I wanted to talk to others before. I'm very glad I found this site. Thank you so much for the letter; I've been trying to find one. I don't really need anything, I guess I just wanted support. Thank you so much.

There are additional letters located here

I've read the letter through twice and it was extremely helpful to me. I learned from it and I'm very happy you sent it my way. Thank you so much. Whether you see it or not, you've helped me so much and I couldn't be more thankful.

Hi- I think it's important to tell your parents when you come out that blockers are not hormones and just stop puberty. If THEORETICALLY you were "confused" in their mind you could just get off the blockers and the puberty would start then. It's like a pause button on life to be able to figure stuff out


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Thank you so much! This really helps!

Quote from: Nichole on August 30, 2016, 12:14:40 AM
I've read the letter through twice and it was extremely helpful to me. I learned from it and I'm very happy you sent it my way. Thank you so much. Whether you see it or not, you've helped me so much and I couldn't be more thankful.

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Quote from: Nichole on August 29, 2016, 09:15:35 PM
I've just started puberty...of the wrong gender. (MTF) I know puberty is something that is hard for all teens, but going through puberty of the wrong gender is even more terrifying. I want to tell my parents that I want to go onto blockers. They don't know I'm trans and I know I have to tell them that first. If you have any tips on coming out to a judging family, please let me know. But once I get past that, they'll probably be shocked and I don't know if they will let me take blockers. I'm scared they're going to deny that in trans or say that I'm confused. I know I need to be strong, but I don't think I'll ever be fully ready to tell anybody for the first time. But I need tips on how to tell my parents and how to get them to let me take blockers. I have just started male puberty and growing hair on my arms and legs. My voice is deepening and I hate it. I can feel an Adams Apple developing. I want to tell them soon because I know it'll be easier to transition that way, but I don't know how to tell them. I need advice on how to tell my parents and when I should tell them. Please, I don't know what to do and I'm desperate.

Come out immediately. Tell them what you are feeling, add some tears too. Only tip for development I can think of is voiceeeeee trainingggggg. I've been training my voice since it started changing and I can still make my voice high and sound female, it just kinda sounds a little deep for a female voice but it works.