Sweetie, you have a support network, just not quite where you thought it was going to be.
Folk like to hold onto hopes and dreams, however ill-founded and often contrary to evidence before them. They have no control over this situation, no say in the outcome and no way to undo what mistakes they believe they have made - rightly or wrongly.
You have shown extraordinary bravery in trying to keep the lines of communication open, I hope that you will have the courage and drive to continue.
Sno.