I met a guy who was cute n nice. After I told him I was trans he didn't mind n wen I asked him if he's fooled wit a trans he said no, wen we fooled around he acted kinda nervous at first n then after a few mins got comfortable. So if he's ok wit it from the get go does that usually mean he's had some type of experience in meeting trans or is it just from watching porn?

I would be inclined to think that it is more of an open mind and genuine attraction; than the "norm" or fantasy.

Quote from: Harley Quinn on September 03, 2016, 09:38:13 AM
I would be inclined to think that it is more of an open mind and genuine attraction; than the "norm" or fantasy.

ok. That makes sense.

It's a possibility that he has experience here, but not necessarily. Sometimes people are just nice. My boyfriend, for example, never dated anyone before me. He was absolutely fine with me being transgender. He's also not specifically into trans women over cis women. Not everyone is.

Quote from: Eevee on September 03, 2016, 09:48:38 AM
It's a possibility that he has experience here, but not necessarily. Sometimes people are just nice. My boyfriend, for example, never dated anyone before me. He was absolutely fine with me being transgender. He's also not specifically into trans women over cis women. Not everyone is.

he did tell me that he's not into ->-bleeped-<-s, I did correct him n said u mean transgender n he apologized n said he dosnt know the terms. So maybe he hasn't had experience. Wouldn't someone who has had experience know the terms?

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on September 03, 2016, 09:55:49 AM
he did tell me that he's not into ->-bleeped-<-s, I did correct him n said u mean transgender n he apologized n said he dosnt know the terms. So maybe he hasn't had experience. Wouldn't someone who has had experience know the terms?

You're probably right. People who don't know the proper terms have likely never known any transgender people before.

My husband had never been with anyone other than cis-women prior to our relationship. Nor have anyone I dated before. Some men are just open-minded, and looking for a woman to love. The human need to love another person can sometimes over-ride fears of the unknown.

Angeleque you are a very attractive woman. I would be leary. Just develop a friendship and if it advances beyond that you can look back in 6 months and relate what a wonderful experience it was and you won't have anymore doubts. As a transgender woman you have a pretty good idea about taking a long time for things to develop.

well, I'm coming from a different perspective given my age and willingness to let things play out. I think if someone is attracted to you and you to them you'll never know until the relationship moves forward.  Caution is always advisable no matter what kind of relationship it is no one ever knows until the cards are played.

He probably hasn't any experience, looking at your avatar he probably just sees an attractive woman and he could be just an open minded guy, I wouldn't read too much into it, let there ralationship grow, develop and see where it goes.
My husband has only dated and been in relatonships with cis-women before he dated me and never had experience with anybody trans, he doesn't see me as trans but sees and accepts me as a woman, we've a mutual love and respect, I was thrilled when he proposed to me, now married 6 years.