Quote from: anjaq on September 10, 2016, 07:51:48 AM
Yes - I obsess a bit with hair, too. I do not use a lot of makeup, so that is not the biggie, but I need a feminine hairstyle or I feel odd. I try not to look into the mirror after showering and also in some bad lights (elevators! I hate elevators with that dreaded ceiling light) I do not want to look. Others seem not to notice it because its still me, but I hate those. But thats the thing - doing 8 hours of extensive surgery with risks of nerve loss and other complications just to get rid of some odd, maybe subjective and unrealistic perception in some situations? Seems to be a bit crazy to me myself

Crazy. Good question really.    Becoming obsessed with something to the point of neglecting what's important is unhealthy. Maybe a working definition for "crazy" below. Or, just having one's values out-of-balance.

I think we are in similar situations in some respects, but not all. One thing in common, we don't need FFS to live our lives. Some people really need it to pass and you could argue that they need it to earn a living and have lives that are anything close to "normal." Perhaps we are both established enough that we could go on as we are and function in our careers and relationships, etc. So it's optional.

That means it's a matter of priorities and it comes down to values. I said before that it is a personal decision and I very strongly believe that.

Surely I have a lot of values like personal virtue, family, career/wealth, friendship, health, fitness, experiences, etc. Not attempting to put these in any order. Somewhere in there is a desire to be feel confident and attractive. In the world we are certainly judged a great deal on how we look and I know that the way I look affects my view of myself as well as the experiences I have. Because, when I lack confidence, sometimes I hesitate to do things I might otherwise do. There is definitely a balance to be found between caring about personal appearance and being a good person. However, we can care about both, can't we?

I'm going to invest a lot of time, money and effort on this, it's true, but I think that the pay-off is pretty high and will be there for the rest of my life. I believe that I will come out of this feeling satisfied that I made a good decision and invested in my own well-being and feeling of self-worth and confidence. I'll feel good about it every time I look in the mirror, meet a new person or see myself in a photo. For that matter, just being "out there" in the world. Because when I step out the door, I care what I look like.

"It's not my fault, it's how I'm programmed to function." Lily Allen --The Fear

Thanks for raising the question though. It's good to be self-aware and know why one is making choices.

That was really intresting enjoyable  , i understand what you mean its a personal thing and i have reality on  groups of people i have a big button on that  and i intend to have ffs too so that no one will ever clock me (well thats the plan)
But i must say you come across 100%  as a cis woman indeed you are very succesful i would never have guessed and i am constantly scoping woman these days looking for a template for my self , love your voice
You already  look  great ffs will enhance that no end 

Thanks Markie, I'm glad that you enjoyed the video. Also, thanks for commenting on my voice. Even after all these years, I still work on it. Trying to improve.

Some days I feel very self-confident and others I feel like nothing in my closet will look good on me.

Good luck on your own FFS!

Pleasure and thank you : )