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SRS without Genital Dysphoria ?

Started by FuschiaLipstick, October 05, 2016, 04:32:44 PM

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FuschiaLipstick

So I came to the realisiation I'm transgender when I was 15-16, I am starting my hormone replacement therapy to medically transition. I definitely want FFS first and it's kind of the biggest deal to me,  then SRS, as of now my penis gives me no dysphoria, this is a blessing and a curse because it puts into question do I want SRS,  even though I believe I do. I do think of when I wrote out a list of what I wanted done un knowingly even forgot to include SRS, maybe because the NHS will pay for it and it doesn't cost me so I won't worry about it. but transition to me was always built having the genitals I believed I needed to have to function like a woman ( good for you girls who can rock not having SRS huge respect ) but I feel as if it just won't feel "normal" to not have it done ? Any suggestions around SRS without dysphoria welcome. I watched a girl on YouTube who only started to feel her body didn't match in relation to genitals during her medical intervention transition to female.
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kanad3

I didn't feel the need for SRS either until I had started HRT. I was quite sure I wouldn't want it, but genital dysphoria has only grown. That doesn't mean it will for you, though. I think it's important to do a lot of thinking about it, but it's gonna be a while til you get SRS anyway so you can see how you develop and if your feelings change. When you have genital dysphoria making the decision is easier. When you don't have it, you've got to make sure you will be happy after SRS and that you are doing it for yourself. You say you feel it would be more normal if you had SRS. That's probably true, the more cis you look the better society will perceive you, however you shouldn't (IMO) choose to go one way just because you feel it would be better in other people's eyes.
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Dena

I had extreme depression before I started my transition and my RLE period ran about 2.5 years. Near the end of RLE, I realized that if surgery wasn't available, I could continue living as I had been in relative comfort as I had most of what I was after. But there was that small amount remaining that surgery would provide. It would put the old life completely behind me and finish the move into the new one. Surgery was a graduation ceremony but not the end goal of treatment.

One difference about me is I had Social Dysphoria, I was uncomfortable with my social role. Many people suffer from Body Dysphoria where their body brings them discomfort. I suspect people with Body Dysphoria may feel a greater need for surgery.
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AnonyMs

I'd do it without any genital dysphoria because I prefer it, but I'm not sure I'd do it via the NHS.

There's a risk with SRS of not getting a good result, and I'd hate end up worse than what I started with. Since I don't have any particular dysphoria to begin with and that's a high bar to meet. I'd need to have a lot of confidence in the surgeon before I'd risk it.
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kathb31

SRS really was not a big priority for me when I started my transition 2+ years ago.
HRT and FFS were a bigger focus. Even breast implants more important. But I admit
that lately I have been thinking about it a lot more and may consider it in
my future.
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PrincessCrystal

I've been reading on this, because I have a similar issue: I'd like to eventually get SRS, and have wanted that for a long time now, but I don't have much aversion to what I have now.  I know that having balls has bothered me for a long while, so I might try to get an orchidectomy long before SRS if I'm happy with HRT, but, once again, I'm not feeling heavy dysphoria about my body as far as I know, I'd just prefer it to look female.

This isn't uncommon.  Many transgender people do not feel intense dysphoria, and that's completely ok.  Many of these transgender people end up fully transitioning, even having SRS, and are typically happy about the outcome.  I'm gonna suggest you just do what seems important to you as it comes along, and worry about this when you get around to SRS: I know my SRS would be at least 2 years away, so I'm not gonna bother thinking too hard about it until I see what Estrogen does to me...
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Janes Groove

I don't have any dysphoria about my genitals.  If GCS were not available, I could deal with what I have.  But just knowing GCS is readily available? The opportunity of being even more like most women? The thought of actually having a vagina? Wow.
It's too much of an opportunity for me too pass up.
I won't even be eligible until I've been on HRT for a year though. 
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JoanneB

Knowing you are trans and living, breathing, and being trans are two different things. What you think and how you feel today about a lot of things are very likely to change. As you learn what it is like to actually be the real you. A you that you are just barely beginning to lean who she is.

GCS was never on my "Must Have" list. For the most part I never had and do not have genital dysphoria. In fact, the dangly bits and I have had some great times together. Over these past seven years of learning just who I am as a person, the desire, the need to feel, and actually be ever more authentic has also grown. To experience the shear joy of being out in the real world as the real me. The real world is as imperfect as the real me is. Yesterday, GCS, just as HRT, just as yet another transition wasn't even on my radar. But as I finally began to grow as a person HRT and a possible transition eventually appeared on the horizon. A "Possible" transition in order to feel, to be more authentic. Will feeling, being, more authentic include GCS in the future also? Well, not also as possible GCS has come into play. But like a possible transition, all aspects of my life need to be kept in balance
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