All my life I've had a fascination with females. I idolize the female identity, and prefer she/her pronouns...and yet, I don't feel female? More and more I'm starting to think I actually feel male, but only lightly so, and very effeminate at that. I also feel like I'd be more comfortable in a male body, and wish I was born a biological male. I have major physical dysphoria too, especially for the lower parts.

I suppose my writing isn't very clear here, and there are few details I put into this, but...thoughts?

Don't judge yourself for feeling the way you do, that's the most important thing IMHO.

Gender identity is different for all of us, and there's no shame in that. Some people are genderfluid, with their selfdefinition shifting over time. Sometimes this is a gradual shift in one direction, but it might as well be faster and rocking back and forth.

whatever it is for you, live it and love it. There's nobody who's got to live it except for you. Whatever floats your boat

You're not alone. There are a lot of people who feel as you do. Unfortunately there is a lot of judgment out there on the internet, by people who seem incapable of empathy towards those who aren't exactly like themselves.

You can prefer female pronouns and be dysphoric over breasts. There are a lot of people who identify as women who seek breast reduction or removal. In fact, I knew quite a few people like that 20 years ago. They weren't interested in hormones or social transition. I have a friend planning to get top surgery with Dr Garramone next year. S/he's nonbinary and pretty much presents female. If it makes your life better, why would you need to explain it? Some of us are just born that way.

I identify as a demiguy ( someone who feels mostly male but also another gender identity) so I feel mostly male but slightly agender as well. So I would rather they pronouns to male ones. Male pronouns make me slightly dysphoric but not as dysphoric as female pronouns did.

So yeah you're normal; pich whatever pronouns you want

Quote from: AnxietyDisord3r on October 13, 2016, 09:33:48 AM
You're not alone. There are a lot of people who feel as you do. Unfortunately there is a lot of judgment out there on the internet, by people who seem incapable of empathy towards those who aren't exactly like themselves.

You can prefer female pronouns and be dysphoric over breasts. There are a lot of people who identify as women who seek breast reduction or removal. In fact, I knew quite a few people like that 20 years ago. They weren't interested in hormones or social transition. I have a friend planning to get top surgery with Dr Garramone next year. S/he's nonbinary and pretty much presents female. If it makes your life better, why would you need to explain it? Some of us are just born that way.

I think you misunderstood. I identify as a guy, but was born female and have dysphoria over the male body. However, I still prefer to be called "she". (Although he doesn't bother me.)