Quote from: marssu on October 12, 2016, 10:00:43 AM
I dont know how am I going to live my life if I get bad results. I am already contemplating suicide if my results arent good. I dont want to ruin my life forever by choosing not so good surgeon.
... Bad idea ...
Quote from: marssu on October 12, 2016, 10:00:43 AMMy surgery should be on may but i cannot wait for that long. Ive been going through this transition for 4 years now and it is getting really tiring. I also live in Finland where the surgeons are not as experienced compared to other countries. So that means you will either get perfect outcome or busted one. [...]
I have been thinking of going to dr. Chettawut but I just dont know where to get 9000 euros. My bank doesnt want to give me that amount of loan and saving cannot be an option cause it would take years to save that money. Do you guys have any idea where to get that money? Can I open something like GoFundMe? I probably sound like impatient and whining young adult but i am pretty sure you can understand. I am really depressed.
Here's the thing... and I'm sorry if I sound "old" or something like that, this is definitely not how I want to come across. But here it goes: some things need time. You're right about not being sure about going to a surgeon who isn't quite on par with Suporn, Chettawut and the like. SRS is a once-in-a-lifetime thing, there are no do-overs.
This situation leaves you with a bunch of alternatives:
1. Get a better job, this will make the banks more lenient to give you a 15K loan.
2. Start a GoFundMe campaign, you wouldn't be the first transgender to do so. But this option is a shot in the dark.
3. Have a thorough talk with your parents
... I'm pretty sure you've already given these options some thought. Which is probably also why you're here. I think you'll have to make a list of priorities about what you want to get out of your SRS, and what's important to you. On the one hand, there's the issue of the outcome: What will it look like, do I want to take the chance with a surgeon who's known to botch it once in a while?
Then, on the other hand there's the issue of time: How long am I willing to wait? I can understand you if you don't want to wait too long, believe me. I also made a deal with myself that my SRS (which is scheduled for next june) shouldn't be any later than that. And I got lucky, because it's also with a damn good surgeon, one of the best.
So there's that. But there's also the bigger picture: You probably wanna live a long life as yourself, in the body that feels right for you. But what's that, what's a long life? 80 years? And how old are you now? 18? 20? That leaves about 60 years of happy life. Now if you were to go with your current option, with a 10% chance of getting a botched result, you'd have a 10% chance of ruining these 60 years for you. That's a big thing!
The other alternative is to find a surgeon who you KNOW produces good results. Such as Suporn, Chettawut or Schaff in Germany (my surgeon). And these options take more time. You'll have to save a couple of years for Thailand and Schaff gets paid for by the German insurance system, but he still has 3 year waiting lists. This means you might cut your 60 years of to-be-expected happy life down to 57 years. But the outcome is a near 100% chance of happiness with your body in those years.
I'm sorry to break it down in such a 'dry' way, but there's a reason for that. Some things take time. The older you get, the more obvious this becomes (my personal experience speaking here). Give yourself some time and breathe. Let life in. Not everything has to happen now, and when you cut corners, you take risks. Just be sure you know the consequences of these risks when you take them, because SRS is something you do only once. And if you don't wanna take those risks, you'll have to wait. That's simply the way things are, unless you win the lottery. Oh, and even then, because Suporn and Chettawutt still have 6-12 month waiting lists even if you wire them the money right now.
Best of luck deciding!
