hello, i'm pete. i've never posted here before but right now i need some advice because this has become a longstanding problem. im a trans boy, and im also pansexual/romantic. being pan was easier before i knew i was trans because my gender wasn't questioned. now i know i'm a boy, and i have NO IDEA what to do about this giant crush i have on a cis boy. this isn't the first time i've been smitten with a cis boy, and i would just love some advice pertaining to the situation.

Hi pete, welcome to the site.

Glad to have you join us here. I am sorry, your question is just not in my experience to help. I imagine it would be similar to before as far as approaching it all goes, it's just a little more complex. We have a large membership here. I imagine you will get some response shortly.

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With warmth,

Joanna

Welcome to Susan's Place. Unfortunately when you are transgender, you find yourself making tradeoffs in life because you can't have it all. I gave up much that I could have had as the price of transitioning. Others decide not to transition and latter in life when they can no longer contain their feelings, they pay a high price of losing their spouse and/or children. You will have to make long term decisions about your life and decide what your life will look like in the future and find people who will remain with you through the transition.