Quote from: Jess2Impress on November 27, 2016, 08:07:24 PMMy response was regarding corrective surgery.. and the difference between cis and trans. As only one example; To be labeled male at birth, and identify female makes you trans. To be labeled female and identify female makes you cis.
That make
make you trans, but as I pointed out, I see it in a very different light. Now yes, this definition you offer is likely the more widespread understanding of the terms under consideration, but then at one point in time the widespread understanding of the Earth was that it was flat.
The word "trans" itself is actually a prefix from Latin, meaning "across, beyond, over," and perhaps derived from "to cross." But once one has crossed over, once there's no more dysphoria, and identity, embodiment, and socialization are all aligned (assuming you're on the binary), I think it makes more sense to simply say you're a woman or a man. Because now there's nothing "trans" about it. I'm not beyond female, I
am female. Gender is socially constructed -- right down to the very idea that an "assignment" needs to be made at birth in the first place. So to focus on "biology" I think is misplaced, and can lead to unnecessary dysphoria-inducing rumination. The fact of the matter is, it's one's
presentation in the present that elicits gendering. Which is more a function of embodiment than "biology."
And I realize that this might seem like quibbling over semantics, but I find semantics to actually be very important. I mean, we ask for the correct semantics when it comes to pronouns, right?
QuoteI can't speak for everyone obviously, however the past to me is just as important as the present.. at least in most cases. The past is my backdrop if you will.. the first chapters that establish the characters and set the scene. The past gave me time to introduce myself.. and I choose to respect it rather than forget it.
My memories have changed.
And obviously, I'm aware of that fact, but nonetheless, when I pull up memories of myself from when I was a little girl, well, in my memories I'm a little girl. And when my parents tell stories of when I was a little girl, they tell stories of when
I was a little girl. My birth certificate now says that I was born a little girl.
This, as far as I'm concerned, is a blessing. My memories are no longer a source of dysphoria.
Which, to me, is what's really relevant to all this -- dysphoria (and, consequently, euphoria). That's how I even came to know who I really was. I mean, maybe identity is all a fiction, as the Zen koans suggest, there never was a gate or even a self to pass through it, but I do think
emotions are real. It's our emotions that matter. At least, it's
my emotions that mattered when I decided to transition, not any theories on identity or how to define cis and trans. Back in the day, we didn't even have the word "cis."
Words are transitory, and change over time, in accordance with usage. They accrue new meanings that better suit the people who are using them. We own the words, not the other way around.
QuoteMy response was regarding biology, and the difference between trans and cis. IF we understood cis the way you have explained it would be bliss! But we don't understand it that way.. For that to work would require no gender label at all.. or perhaps.. maybe rather than male or female would be dysphoric and non-dysphoric. Even here there is still a Trans aspect.. AND a method or process of transition. Before we knew it we would be Trans again!
Wait, if
you understood it as
I understand it, it would be bliss? Bliss?
That's music to my ears, and it sounds about right to boot.
Just drop the "trans" for a second, and think of it this way. You're a woman. No bones about it. But your body has been poisoned by testosterone, thanks to a genetic error, and this has led to everyone thinking you're a
man in some sense (including yourself, perhaps?) and all this brings up feelings of gender dysphoria. So you engage in a process through which your embodiment is corrected. Lo and behold, with the appropriate narrative (you were always female) your proper socialization ensues. Now everyone takes you as a woman! And at some point down the road, there's no dysphoria at all, in which case you might as well be cis.
Why on earth would you deny that to yourself if you suffer gender dysphoria? Why deny yourself
bliss if everyone else is willing to give it to you?
QuoteI've met plenty of cis-gendered people where I've needed to wait for a general social queue like a name or something to tell me their identity. This surely means Ambiguity doesn't need to be seen as a negative, because its entirely normal (in that it exists EVERYWHERE.. Trans or Cis). However in a theoretical world where that gender-comparison didn't exist, the mind would evolve to seek different information to determine gender.. not current standards. I don't speak for everyone of course (again
) but that is a world I'd much rather live in.
We live in a world where the categories of gender have been
neurologically established due to the dimorphism between two different types of bodies, a binary which is subsequently socially reinforced. Those categories aren't "trans" and "cis" but "man" and "woman." Those are the basic-level categories. For those afflicted with gender dysphoria, there will always be comparisons with "cis" gendering, because it's in that context that the social dimension of gender is constructed.
Which is interesting, because "trans" and "cis" aren't basic-level categories with prototypical "shapes" or "qualia" at their centers -- rather, they are narrative categories.
At the heart of the cis narrative is the idea that gender is constant and there is no misalignment of embodiment or socialization. Well, if we realize that we were always the gender of our internal identities, and there's no more misalignment of embodiment or socialization, if there's no more dysphoria, we might as well consider ourselves "cis" at that point.
Narrative is just a fancy word for story. Which is the real issue here, what stories we're going to tell, and why we're going to tell them. Now, different conceptual frameworks or paradigms for understanding the world will yield different stories. And different stories have different effects on people, both listeners and storytellers. So, given several paradigms, all internally consistent, why not pick the one that produces the desired effect?
Assuming the desired effect is the alleviation of dysphoria, I would argue that some paradigms are more effective than others.