Hi,

So I've been chatting long distance with a guy I met on a social media app. I told him I was trans when we first starting talking. He was curious and that has progressed to witty texting and sexting and me sending him pictures of me in lingerie. He's replied by sending pictures and doting messages and we've done some erotic Skyping. The problem is that I have a breast plate and he wants to see "all of me" and I don't know how to explain that I'm not transitioning with hormones so taking off my clothing tops would involve my breasts not looking real at all. 

I know it's a really dumb question but I don't know what to do.

I'd say that honesty is the best policy. Tell him what the situation is.

just be honest with him x

Welcome to Susan's Place. I tend to be an honesty is the best policy type person so if you wish to continue this relationship, this will need to come out sooner or latter. Unfortunately at this point I suspect the I am modest about by body will no longer work but the decision is yours.

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What are the worst things that happen when you tell him? Is it worse than continuing further and being caught out later?

I don't have any good ideas. Sorry.

Warmly,

Joanna

Thank you!!! I am going to tell him when we chat this weekend. 

How did it go?

Quote from: julogden on October 29, 2016, 12:21:00 PM
I'd say that honesty is the best policy. Tell him what the situation is.

ditto

Sorry it's taken me a while to provide an update. I didn't really know what to say as it turns out my friend was just using me to send him erotic pictures and we had a fight where I said that I felt pressured to keep sending him pics and he wasn't trying to really make a connection. He tried to make me feel like I was crazy...blah blah blah...so I never had the chance to come clean and tell him the truth about my boobs. I feel kind of cheap sharing this, but I do feel like I owe everyone an update as to what happened since you've been so supportive. Thank you

Quote from: Jade2016 on November 29, 2016, 01:12:42 AM
I feel kind of cheap sharing this,

  i do not think you should feel this way. a very similar thing happened to me. where i met this person was due to me feeling i am a pervert for my feelings i have had my whole life. however i am not and nor do i feel cheap.

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,13877.msg1919713.html#msg1919713

we all got here somehow.